How To Direct Your Life

Did you set goals for the New Year?

If so, are you still on track?

If not, you're not alone!  Good Morning America announced 30% of all New Year's resolutions are broken by the end of January!

Perhaps you don't achieve your goals because they aren't really your life priorities. 

Over a year ago, I read a book called The Four Hour Work Week by Timothy Ferris...and my life changed because I got to notice what was really important.

Ferris has a system on how to prioritize your life and personally, I think it is brilliant.  (I am really simplifying here.  Ferris' description is much more detailed than this.)

See how it works for you!

1.  List Everything You Want to Be, Have and Do

Everything.  Everything you think is important or want to do in this life, write it down.  Even things you do not think are possible, but you would like to have or be or experience.  Put them down on paper.

This will take some time.  At first, great things start coming to you, like traveling around the world; owning your own yacht; speaking French fluently; having a fabulous romantic relationship, etc.

Then you will ponder and mull in your sleep.  You will think of more.  It's all good.  Write it down.

And once you thin your list is complete...

2.  Edit Your List to the Top FOUR Priorities

This is tough.  You really have to think about what is important.  What do you really want to be?  What do you really want to have?  What do you really want to spend your time doing?

(That is what this exercise is really about.  How do you want to spend your time in life.)

Then edit your list down to your top four.

Does your list excite you?  Does it make you feel inspired?  Does it make you want to get out of bed in the morning?

If it doesn't, throw it out.  Seriously.

If your list is filled with things you should do, but really do not want to do...toss it. 

3.  Each Priority MUST Inspire & Motivate You!

You must really get excited and charged when you think about these four things!  They must make you want to leap out of bed in the morning.  They must stimulate your energy and creativity.

If your list bores the hell out of you...start over!

Only list things you really, really, really want to do.  Despite what people think.  Despite the "shoulds" in your head.

Write them down.  Write down everything that is a "BIG WOW" for you.

Then narrow your new list down to your Top FOUR.

4.  Complete Your Top Four Priorities Within the Next 3-6 Months

Forget the New Year's Resolutions.  (You don't do them anyway!)

If one of your top priorities will take longer than 3-6 months, break it down into smaller segments.

For example:  If having a romantic relationship is a Big Wow priority for you, what can you move yourself towards doing in the next 3-6 months that you are not already doing now?

You could:  Join a fun organization to meet new people;  Practice flirting five minutes a day; or learn more about yourself and what you want to attract in a relationship.  (The Role of a Lifetime:  How to Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study course can help you here! :))

5.  Re-Evaluate Your List Every 3-6 Months

Re-evaluating your Top Priorities not only gives you clarity, it give s you flexibility.  And the ability to accomplish or experience what is really important to you without a lot of distraction.

And it allows you to change your mind.  If after three months you stop feeling inspired, do something else.  Make a new list.

When someone asks you to do something that does not align with your Top Four priorities, tell them to ask you again in three months because at this time your plate is full.

Of course if the offer is a "Big Wow, Hell Yes!" then absolutely go for it!

You are the star of your life! 

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