A writer Vlad Karl maintains a dating, friendship and love relationship columns on http://www.meetingland.com
Let's get started. Getting a girl of your dreams is much like getting the car of your dream. But unlike a car which you can always bargain for, there is nothing like a 20 percent discount in courting the girl of your dreams, she's so sweet a thing to be discounted, you dearly are in love with her and your feelings for her can only be communicated not by the words of the mouth, but by the words of the heart. Getting the girl actually depends on how big your heart is - faint heart, never won fair lady.
The first dating idea for any man is to make a good impression. In your doing so, you don't have to talk, dress or do the common things that all the Toms do to get a decent girl's attention. Be unique, that's all you need. Be a man of his own style. Dress decently - indecency can make one be mistaken for arrogance; watch your language - obscene language gives the impression of immaturity, being uncultured and cheap; be a man of good habits - don't drink or smoke like any other loser.
How to make her fall in love with you? Take your time. Add some romance to your dating style. When in College I had a crush on the most beautiful lady in our first year lot. Though all senior guys were out to get that girl, I managed to divert her attention from the other guys. I wrote her three letters without disclosing my identity and slid into her room secretly; all I said was 'Yours Secret Admirer.' The first letter contained the meaning of her name, this I got by playing around with the initials of her name to make meaning. The second was a funny message that could only be read backwards and it was all about her physique and her smartness. In the third letter I told the girl to be ready to receive a rose flower from her admirer, but only if she could be kind enough to phone him using a number that I had included in the letter. The girl did phone me that very night, and her first words to me were, "Hallo Secret Admirer." So, the story of our love affair came to be. Later she told me that was so creative of me, no one had approached her in that manner. I made her fall in love with me and made a date in the romantic manner.
Befriending and understanding the girl you are out to get is the next important thing. This is what I also did. You have to understand that as a lady, she loves to be loved, adores to be adored and needs to be needed. This will move you closer to the girl and you'll get to know what she's into, what she likes and dislikes, and what her style is. Love is built upon friendship and it always leaves individuals better off having known each other should they break up. I and my College steady were to break some time later but to date, we are the best of buddies. Be sure that bringing out the selflessness friend in you will make her create room for you in her heart.
A shoulder to lean on and some good friend that she can always turn to is all that a lady wants. Please don't hesitate to be helpful and supportive. Be that friend who rekindles her zeal of hardworking and restoring hope back into her life when she looses hope. This above all other things will make you her daily vitamin simply because you bring out the best in her in terms of personality and character. In you, she'll have found that friend whom she can open up to, share with and advice each other on the rights and wrongs, the dos and don'ts of life. Don't forget to always be there to celebrate the good times, and to lend an ear when the girl needs you to listen as a friend.
Make the girl feel special; because she's someone's friend - your friend, and let her know that she too has touched your life in a unique way like no one else could. Compliment her for her company and for being there when you needed her, when you felt sad and all alone. Show appreciations for the comfort the girl offers you and for making you smile.
In your day to day talks, share your dreams, your world, and every aspect of your life with your girl. Always dream with her, build with her, and always cheer her on and encourage her. Tell your girl how you always think about her even when you try not to think about her. Let the girl know that she's your first thing in the morning and the last thing when you go to bed at night.
Her knowing that you were thinking of her when you slipped beneath the softness of your blanket and gave in to the bliss of sweet dreams, will make her go 'my my' and her heart will sing your name all the year round.
You have to be creative and constructive to keep girl's interest in you so full of life. I remember one time I told my girlfriend to be to imagine we are both deaf and dump. We then sat opposite each other on the table and started sharing our feelings for each other using eyes and hand signs. It turned out to be some fun. There was also this time that we were in the library and we decided we are not going to speak to each other verbal, so I wrote a love note on a paper and passed it across the table to her, she replied and on and on we carried on our love on paper conversation till we almost exhausted a whole rim of paper. At sometime, I noticed that some guys sited with us on the table were enjoying our ordeal than their studies. Such are the things that made the girl embrace my world. I remember her suggesting that we play deaf and dump two years after we broke up, can you imagine that?
Never fail to phone her, even when she least expects it. I once called some girl that I was interested in at four o'clock in the morning. When inquiring of what I was doing up so early, I told her I was in thirteenth heaven, where people think of their loved ones when they can't sleep. Wow! First thing early the next morning, she was at my door with a king-sized hug for me. No matter how many dates you take her, don't make any elbow - exceeding moves after any date, just drop her home and with a friendly handshake, wish her good night. Don't kiss her when she expects you to. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces.
The writing is on the wall that you want her, but you can't have her just yet. Increase your demand. Try to show her that men are also hard to get at times. Make her realize that when she feels a little dizzy, a little tired, a little sad, a little sick, a lot bored and very much cold, she's actually missing vitamin you. By this time, she'll be so much into you and since love is truthful and is characterized by open and honest communication, honestly promise her your everlasting devotion, loyalty, respect, and your unconditional love for a lifetime. Prove to her that you'll always be there for her, to listen and to hold her hand, and that you'll always do your best to make her happy, and feel loved.
Remember, patience is the key to her heart; be like that gardener watching a fruit as it hangs on the tree, day after day admiring it, but, exercising tremendous self-discipline, neither feeling the fruit, nor pinching it, nor testing it to see if it is ready. And then, one day he holds out his hand and the fruit simply drops into it, ripe, warm and eager to be eaten.
The patience and self-control which you practice will make you more attractive and charming. This will qualify you as her daily vitamin and win you that heart hers.
I wish you to meet the girl of your dreams ASAP, make her fall in love with you, and make her feel the happiest girl in the world!
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BENZO
I really appreciate all what you did :)
But I have a problem is that I Love a girl so so much and I only know her from the internet..!!
I don't know if she loves me or not!? How can I make her love? I mean I'm not talking to her in real only on MSN I really have a big crush on her
Also, u mentioned that u called a girl u like at 4 oclock in the morning.. lol
you see, this is my problem i always think that i am not supposed to call alot bcs then she would think that i am annoying... and i am talking about the level when u start talking to the girl. and i think thats true in most cases.
So any suggestion about anything i have mentioned. THankx
1.) CHEMISTRY – unfortunately, there is such a magical thing that builds that relationship. You can be her nurse, her drumbeater, her tutor, her counselor, her driver, her companion, etc… You can be all that, but if there’s no chemistry, that is all you will be. It’s the risk you take in the name of love.
2.) RESPECT – if she likes you, then thank your lucky stars because your moves tickles her fancies and makes her blood run. But there is also that possibility where she can take it unexpectedly, you can be a disturbance or a stalker. The sweet talk can be perceived as corny or sheepish. Be careful.
3.) TASTE – she may have the qualities you find attractive, but what if the qualities she may like is not in you? For instance (in a physical sense) you like her for her height and slender physique. But you’re skinny and she’s into huggable big men. How do you get that shot?
I speak from experience and I am the female. Once there was a man I liked and pursued. I have done even more than the advice given above. It may be useful and sound, though it’s not always a guarantee. Other things are important for a relationship to spark and work.
Actually I am married, so I don't need this advice anymore, but when I was single I had to learn the hard way on how to meet and keep that special girl.
I wish I had information bank in the day I was single; it would have been easier.
Again, good job.
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and u gave me hope. thxxxxxx a million time.
ill do it to my crush asap!!!
^_^
abbas
feel the wive of love
i we loce she as she did
you really helped me a lot!!
now i have the courage to stand and tell her the longing feeling i had when i first met her^^
thanks^^
i wish u were around me to get the gal whom i admire the mosr
i like that words..
good article, good job pal!
i think that if you need to impress a nice hearted girl its better to be yourself and communicate with heart.clarity and maturity in thougts is very important and always proves hepling for long term commitments.respect gains respect....all the best to all you guys
It really touched my heart. . . . . .
i really love this girl ..... she's the world to me.....
and for me ........... i'm gonna be the luckiest guy in he world !!!!
thanks dude .....
now after reading this .. ill combine them with mine and see what happens
Nice Article man :D:D
thanks
i really love this girl ..... she's the world to me.....
and for me ........... i'm gonna be the luckiest guy in he world !!!!
thanks dude .....
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