In the best-selling documentary and book, "The Secret" one of the emphasis for success with positive thinking is on how you use visualization to set and achieve your goals. This applies to gaining riches and dating and relationships. So this article is basically an exploration into using visualization to get you the dating and relationship experiences that you desire.
The following quote is from "The Science of Getting Rich" by Wallace Wattles, and this is the book that inspired the creation of "The Secret" documentary that is a bestseller right now.
"The methods herein set forth are for people whose desire for riches is strong enough to overcome mental laziness and the love of ease and make them work.
The more clear and definite and clear you make your picture then, and the more you dwell upon it, bringing out all its delightful details, the stronger your desire will be; and the stronger your desire, the easier it will be to hold your mind fixed upon the picture of what you want.
Something more is necessary, however, than merely to see the picture clearly. If that is all you do, you are only a dreamer and will have little or no power for accomplishment.
Behind your new clear vision must be the purpose to realize it; to bring it our in tangible expression."
It is very important to be aware of the power of your imagination. If you imagine bad stuff that has happened to you or could happen to you, you will feel bad. Likewise, if you imagine positive things you will feel good. Professional athletes use visualization in their training and when competing. For example, Tiger Wood's father used visualization to train his son at golf. I can't find any links for that claim :( but here are some others;
http://www.virginia.edu/insideuva/2006/02/ball_study.html This one is about a study done at a college on how focus alters performace.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6099944/site/newsweek/ This one is an article on hypnosis which is essentially teaching a person to relax and self heal with positive mental imagery
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6037809/site/newsweek/ An article on an MD who is cautioning you not to overdo it. For example if you feel so good you 'feel like you are flying', don't go jumping off a roof. (couldn't resist that one!)
http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2002-12-08-happy-main_x.htm Just some stuff related that is worth reading and thinking about.
One of the key points in visualization to attain what you desire is being specific. You have to create the picture of what you want in great detail including the steps you want to take to get there. Otherwise, you have no direction.
To attain the kind of dating and relationship partner that will make you happy, you have to visualize the mate you desire in as much as detail as you can. Like what kind of personality do you want her to have? What types of activities does she enjoy doing? What type of hair does she have? What's her height? Is she's just looking for a serious relationship or just casual dating? Visualize these details and any others you can think of. This helps you magnetize the appropriate mate towards you.
After you've visualized the perfect dating and relationship experience for you, write it all down and put it on your wall. Reread and re-visualize it often to refresh your memory and motivation.
The next step is that you have to believe that this perfect date is a certainty in your future. In other words, it is just a matter of time before you meet this person. You just KNOW that you deserve to be with your perfect mate as you have visualized. Of course after you get her or him, you can always adjust the visualization as your understanding of your true desires becomes apparent to you. This is a continual life practice.
If you don't believe you deserve to get the mate/date, you have visualized, you will need to work of your confidence and self-esteem first, and learn to see that world in a way that allows you to attain the mate you desire in a healthy holistic manner.
The next step in this "Attract Your Dream Date", process is- Go Out and Meet People. Have Fun. Don't act needy with any woman, as you don't have to -as the right one's coming to you anyways- and allow events to fall as they may. Because you know you have visualized the date you desire and at this very moment and at this moment, the Universe/God/Goddess(?) is conspiring to bring to you your heart's desire. Sounds corny, I know, but it works. That's what matters.
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