Defeat in love is very disheartening. You love some body dearly and he/she does not reciprocate your feelings at all. Or you have already gone a long distance with someone and he/she goes alone after that. Any failure in love and dating takes the strength away. It kills something inside and the defeat makes another attempt look very difficult. Is this acceptable. Can life not be carried on after such defeats? Why get disheartened and blame ones fate? Why lower self-esteem? Why do all that self-beating?
Success is not our right, nor failure our destiny. Life is a hurdle race. Every life has its ups and downs. The winner is one who gets up after falling again and again. You will say - Easier said than done. I agree. Failure in love is very destructive. We invest quite a lot in love. After that when we face defeat, we feel cheated and helpless. We feel that fate has dealt poor cards to us. It is no doubt difficult to bear the pain.
What should be done? Analyze why this failure happened/ if you find any fault of your own, please correct it. If you find fault of your beloved, please forgive. Begin making contacts again. Search for your soul mate again. Have faith that this time you will get someone real good and worthy of your love. Forget the past. Erase it. Look at it dispassionately and res energize yourself. It is difficult, but it can be done.
Thinking of past failure will only bring more pain. Visualize yourself becoming successful. Think of all the good days that are waiting for you. Think of a future that will be very bright. Fight every negative feeling with something more positive. Don't give up. After every fall rise again. Success will be yours.
Related link :- Romantic Ecards
About the Author:The author, C.D.Mohatta writes for screensavers and desktop wallpapers on topics like nature, spirituality, motivation, love, holidays, animals, etc. He also writes fun quizzes and fun tests on topics like love, personality, dating, relationships, friendship, movies, tv, music, business, etc.
Got a Question? Ask.
Ask the community a question about this article:
Frequently Asked Questions
By: bjlkmh | 26-07-2008
Why is my husband receiving emails from ...
By: prettyprettyprincess | 26-07-2008
why is my husband receiving emails from xxxblackbook, did he sign up or is it spam? it says a username of qwert1136?
What does it mean when an ex out of the blue ...
By: crazyonu2 | 26-07-2008
what does it mean when an ex out of the blue threatens when we haven't spoken in 5 months?
Boyfriend's low sex drive
By: merry | 25-07-2008
I have been with my boyfriend two years...he is sweet and genuine, but I feel I'm living with a buddy or roommate. Our sex life is not satisfying to me - he never initiates anything which means I always have to, and when I do, he sort of jumps me and it's over...quickly. If I bring it up delicately, he talks about being tired or stressed, says it's not lack of desire for me, agrees that it's not working...but doesn't try to change anything. I'm fantasizing about cheating which I would NEVER do, but the feeling is there. I don't want to break up, but am unhappy. And bored. Help?
Trading addictions
By: drachenhexe | 25-07-2008
My husband has traded an addiction to drugs and alchohol for one to meetings. He is either at a meeting or on the phone to women who don't seem to be trying to get sober. I fell that he is just using this for an excuse to be away from home. what can I do? He has not invited me to be a part of this aspect of his life.
What to do... What to say???
By: MommyOfWho? | 25-07-2008
How do you get your other half to see or understand that you don't feel they treat you the same way you treat them...
Example: They are sick or hurt, and you do everything you can to make sure they are comfortable. But when you are hurt, they yell at you and won't help you.
How do you explain this?
My knee went out on me and it is difficult to do anything on crutches. Last night when he came home from work I asked for some food... and he tells me he has things he has to do and I have to wait. He then takes off from the house and comes back an hour and a half later and still wouldn't help me. Now... there are times that he is down and out... and has really hurt me...but knowing he is down and out I was more than willing to take care of him. He asks for specific things and I'll run out to the store for whatever, MAKING A POINT of making sure he has something to drink, the remote...whatever... to make sure he doesn't need anything while I'm gone.
Q&A Powered by:
Latest Dating Articles
Tips And Advice For Choosing A Dating Service
By: Margarita Dalian | 26/07/2008
Like almost everything else these days, love has gone digital. Instead of hitting the singles scene, now people looking for love turn to their computers and go shopping for a mate online the same way they show for their books and plane tickets.
The Age Thing On Your Online Dating Profile
By: Margarita Dalian | 26/07/2008
Online dating opened a whole new world and level of dating. For many people it is easier to find a partner through an online dating service for several reasons
What to Say to a Girlfriend After an Argument
By: Peter Harris | 26/07/2008
Arguing between couples is normal and will happen to the best of couples. Avoiding arguments is probably not healthy and sooner or later one of you will explode. Arguments are a necessary part of any relationship because they allow you an avenue to express thoughts and opinions that you might not otherwise express. What you say to a
girlfriend after an argument can determine how successful you will be in making up with her.
How to Argue Fairly - Part 2
By: Peter Harris | 26/07/2008
Learning how to argue fairly can be very beneficial to the longevity of your relationship. Because arguements are often fueled by intense emotions it is wise to adhere to specific guidelines when arguing so you can avoid anything that will cause irreparable damage in the relationship. Here are further guidelines on how to argue fairly.
How to Argue Fairly - Part 1
By: Peter Harris | 26/07/2008
Learning how to argue fairly can be very beneficial to the longevity of your relationship. Because arguements are often fueled by intense emotions it is wise to adhere to specific guidelines when arguing so you can avoid anything that will cause irreparable damage in the relationship. Here are some guidelines on how to argue fairly.
How to Argue Your Point
By: Peter Harris | 26/07/2008
Most of us are never taught how to argue your point effectively so we can reach a productive outcome. Often times we argue in a destructive manner and don't resovle our conflicts because of it. Until you discover how to argue your point effectively you can cause significant damage to your relationships, both business and personal. Here are some guidelines on how to argue your point.
What Do Couples Argue About?
By: Peter Harris | 26/07/2008
Anyone in a relationship will argue with their partners. It is inevitable. Did you ever wonder what do other couples argue about? Likely they are arguing about the same things that you and your partner argue about. Arguing is normal and it shouldn't be avoided. It really can be used to help bring forth issues and concerns that couples have so they can learn more about each other and bring themselves closer together. So what do couples argue about?
Top Five Things to Say to a Girlfriend After an Argument
By: Peter Harris | 26/07/2008
Avoiding arguments is probably not healthy and sooner or later one of you will explode. Arguing in this manner is usually counterproductive in that it becomes much harder to control your emotions and to reach a resolution. What you say to a girlfriend after an argument can determine how successful you will be in making up with her.
More from Cdmohatta
Relationship - Why Pepople Change
By: Cdmohatta | 14/07/2008 | Dating
Human nature cannot be predicted. We all think that we know somebody. That means that we believe that we know how a friend or family member would react to a situation. We think that we know this at least about people we are very close to. Do we really? If that were true, relationship would not sour.
Is Indian Press Obsessed With the Nuclear Deal
By: Cdmohatta | 14/07/2008 | Politics
Is Indian press obsessed with the nuclear deal? Is there nothing else that is happening in India? What kind of coverage is being given by the press in India to the following? Let us talk about that.
Hinduism - Guru's Glory
By: Cdmohatta | 11/07/2008 | Religion
In Hinduism we do not call any teacher a Guru. We do not call preachers as Guru. We do not call mendicants and those who perform the rituals as Guru. Guru is supreme God according to the truth revealed by Hinduism thousands of years ago.
Friendship Day - Bury Old Enmity
By: Cdmohatta | 18/11/2006 | Relationships
Friendship day is celebrated on August 7, every year. It is a day to wish our friends and meet and have fun together.
Is He Just a Friend Or He Loves You?
By: Cdmohatta | 18/11/2006 | Relationships
This is a common situation. You know many men. Some of them are friends. Out of them one wants to be more than a friend with you.
Know Yourself Before Dating
By: Cdmohatta | 18/11/2006 | Dating
Dating is a beautiful way to find a partner. Dating gives us an opportunity to know our prospective partner better and vice versa.
Love - Balance Emotions and Intelligence
By: Cdmohatta | 18/11/2006 | Dating
Love is euphoric. Love is enchanting. Love is heavenly. Love is captivating. And Love is something no one can describe. Love has to be felt, it cannot be explained.
Strengthen Friendships With Ecards
By: Cdmohatta | 18/11/2006 | Relationships
Friendship is the biggest asset for us. How can we strengthen such friendships with ecards? Let us find out. A true friend is at times more valuable than anybody else.
Relationships 
| Posted: 12-07-2006 | Comments: 
