What should you do if your friends decide to play matchmaker and you’re their experiment? Should you accept their help or flatly turn them down? It could end up being a sticky situation when it comes to friendships and playing matchmaker, so you really need to think about how you respond to them.
First and foremost you need to assess your personal status and if you are even interested in dating someone. Are you dating someone already and your friends are still trying to set you up with someone else? If the latter were the case, then that would be totally wrong because they know you’re already involved with someone. Have you been planning to start dating? Do you have your eye on someone already and want to ask this person out or hope this person asks you out? Have you just gotten out of a long-term relationship? You don’t want to get involved in a rebound relationship. Make you sure answer these questions before you agree to your friends’ matchmaking skills.
How has your social life been going? Have you gone on a lot of dates lately or are you having trouble meeting anyone you would like to date? Have you tried the Internet dating scene? If you’re not meeting the right people and you trust your friends, then it could be a viable option to give them a chance to play matchmaker, as long as they understand that you are agreeing to one or two dates and their feelings won’t be hurt if you decide not to pursue the relationship further after those few dates.
Friendships can be broken or severely altered after a botched attempt at matchmaking so you and your friends need to understand the possible ramifications of going down such a road. Be open and communicate to your friends that you will allow them to help you, but you don’t want to be forced into something that you are not comfortable with and if you want to pull the safety and get out of the situation, they have to let you get out, without having any hurt feelings.
You must also think about the prospective date’s feelings. A matchmaking date can go very well or it can go very badly. You should probably try to find out as much information about this prospect as possible before you even agree to go out on a date. Ask about this person’s background and try to find out if you are compatible. If religion is important to you, ask if your friends know what religion this prospective date is. Find out anything that you can that would help in allowing you to make as informed a decision as possible. If you can ascertain from these discussions with your friends that you don’t think you’ll be compatible with this prospect, because something is glaring out at you, then tell them you won’t go out on a date. If no obvious red flags jump out at you, then maybe it’s fine for you to give a few dates a shot and it could work out well for you.
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