Despite the popular notion that Single life is carefree and easy, some would argue that it can in fact be stressful. That is…depending on your mindset and coping mechanisms. These three checkpoints/questions will help Singles determine if a little mind maintenance is necessary:
The Questions:
1. Have you ever really considered how you feel about being Single?
Whether your feelings are positive or negative who do you believe is in control of these feelings? Would you say the influences of Society, your friends, family, or you?
2. Would you consider yourself to be lonely? This scale will give you a general idea:
The Revised UCLA Loneliness Scale
Directions: Indicate how often you feel the way described in each of the following statements. Circle one number for each.
NEVER RARELY SOMETIMES OFTEN
1. I lack companionship. 1 2 3 4
2. There is no one I can turn to. 1 2 3 4
3. I am no longer close to anyone. 1 2 3 4
4. I feel left out. 1 2 3 4
5. My social relationships are superficial 1 2 3 4
6. No one really knows me well. 1 2 3 4
7. I feel isolated from others. 1 2 3 4
D. Russell, L.A. Peplau, and C.E. Cutrona, "The Revised UCLA Loneliness Scale: Concurrent and Discriminant Validity Evidence," " Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 39, no. 3 (1980): 475.
3. Do you worry about how long you will be Single and how your life will be better when you are in a relationship or married?
The Results:
If you found that you were on the negative side of this three-point check, you are like many other Singles who tend to equate their status with their sense of fulfillment and overall happiness. Now that you know, make conscious choices about how you filter the thoughts and perceptions about being Single that can undermine a more healthy state of mind. Chronic stress and negative thought patterns, whether it’s about being Single or other things, isn't just frustrating, research has demonstrated that it can be a serious health risk. Your life is complete as it is right now! How you live as a Single is a personal choice, and one does not need to be coupled to have a fulfilling life! You only need a strong Sense of Self and the Right Attitude.
About the Author:Coach Carol is a trained Coach and Social Worker providing services to Singles worldwide. Carol has worked in a number of different capacities, counseling and coaching all types of individuals. With thirteen years of experience she uses her coaching skills to help Singles achieve success that is defined by them, their way. For more information please visit the website for Your Way Singles Network at: http://www.yourwaysingles.com and join us for our upcoming Singles Telesymposium at http://www.newattitudesingle.com.
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