Pickup Lines and Qualification: How to compliment and qualify a girl in a pickup situation

In the attraction phase, a seductive man demonstrates attributes of an attractive man and the woman rewards him with indicators of interest i.e. she asks him his name, she brushes her hair, she laughs with him etc. Those signs signify the end of the attraction phase. Qualification is the next phase, where a man will entice the girl to demonstrate value so that he can reward her with indicators of interest.

If you can convince a woman that you like her for reasons other than her looks and sexuality, she will be motivated to see you again. If not she will conclude that you want her only for sex and most women do not want to feel 'easy' (social conditioning). When you can tell that she is attracted to you, but gives few or no signs, you can draw her in with questions about her.

In the beginning you want to make the questions small and innocuous, by focusing on her personality. And even if a woman is attracted she may refuse to answer certain questions out of coyness. Compare this to a yes-ladder, as in sales. The basic idea is that the more someone says yes the more likely they are to say yes in the future. This applied to picking up women means starting with smaller trap questions leading to medium sized trap questions and ending with the large trap questions: “What do you have  going for you besides your looks?”.

Small yes steps are any question that presents a stereotype that a woman wants to be seen as. She should be able to answer yes to this question with little or no thinking. Some examples are “ Are you adventurous, Are you smart, are you a good friend?”

Medium yes steps require a little more thinking and are actually where you will find out if your qualification is taking or not. Some examples are “what nationality are you? What do you want to be when you grow up?”.

As a side note, a woman will not answer a qualification question for one of two reasons. One, she is not attracted. These answers will be short and succinct, such as, “I don’t know”. The other reason is that she sees you as an authority figure and doesn’t want to say something to make herself seem less cool. If she is making an effort to answer the question, you need to reward her.

Large yes steps are blatantly qualifying questions where she will realize she is qualifying herself but do it anyway because she has already invested earlier.

Qualification will be the first point in the interaction where you can start to hit on the girl. So as soon as she answers the question, you reward her with a compliment. For example “You are a nurse! I love nurses, one of my longest relationships was with one of them!". The compliment should be non-generic and non-physical. The more in-depth and specific you can be, the more qualified she will feel.


If you realize that the girl doesn't look comfortable with you qualifying you should at this point release her: slightly tease her e.g. "too bad you are a dork :P"

A word about qualifying: Be honest, do not qualify her for things you do NOT care. If you like sweet girls and the girl is into goth music there is no point of telling her you love goth music as it will come out as fake. If you want more information on these matters have a look here, it is a revolutionary ebook on the subject.