I had a bad fight yesterday and today he/she is no more. How do I say sorry now? It is too late. But I never thought that this would happen to him/her. So healthy. A small pain in the chest that increased and before medical help could arrive he/she was dead. Now what do I do. But you know, I was right yesterday. But it all sounds like a nightmare now. Oh, God, this guilt will never go away. How does one say sorry to a dead body even if one was right?
Have you ever come across such a talk any time in your life? Reconciliation Day is generally celebrated on April 2nd. This day comes especially so that we reconcile with all of those with who we have some tiff or grudge and have strained the relationship. The common meaning of reconciliation is to patch up or to resolve and bring the situation back to normal.
What I narrated in the first Para was a dramatization. That does not happen most of the times. But it was used only to bring your attention to what if something like this happens. So why not to reconcile every grudge as soon as possible. Why wait for this day. Let us look at this from the other side of the mirror. Why not to avoid all the fights. Why not to kill the arguments before they begin to take a shape? Because once arguments begin, ego will take over and to prove that I am right, both the sides will go to any length. The result is never a victory. It is always a defeat for both the parties. It damages the relationships. It spoils the whole atmosphere and there are no positives.
None of us wants to easily agree that we might be wrong. That is human nature. Another important damaging element in arguments is non-listening. No one wants to truly listen to the other party. That creates further rancor. The best approach is - never argue, and if an argument begins, try to kill it by all the means. If saying sorry helps right in the beginning, say that. If the argument can be deflected by a joke, please do that. And if the arguments do not stop and damage the relationship, go back and reconcile as soon as possible. Send hundreds of I am sorry ecards if needed. But reconcile. Bitterness never helps. It is like a mineral. It always remains below the surface and with little mining comes out. Bitterness takes away the love from living. It makes living hell. To live heavenly on this earth, reconcile. Reconcile with all with whom you have a problem and cannot forget.
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