Allan Tan is an experienced writer on seeking dating and relationships. He has been writing for many years and has had many articles published. Some of Allan's most favorite topics to write on include single professionals, mature daters, relationships, and matchmaking. Allan's articles are well written and memorable. They are especially great for anyone looking to begin dating and still keep up with their daily activities.
In a dating relationship, there are two things of utmost importance, especially before the relationship has fully bloomed: confidence and communication. Confidence is what gets you into the relationship and communications helps you keep dating.
Confidence
Confidence gives people who are average-looking the advantage because it makes them more attractive. It's what makes you want to approach someone you're interested in dating. Your confidence is what will get that person you're interested in to start dating you. Most men like women who are competent and confident without a man. Likewise, most women are attracted to men who strut their stuff and act adeptly. Confidence turns heads.
Confidence Boosters
So, how do you improve your confidence? If you can't quite approach that uber-hot guy or girl you're interested in dating, there are lots of ways to boost your confidence. Remember, failure can be a confidence booster, too. It sounds backwards, but it works better than you might expect.
*Go to a movie. By yourself. You'll show yourself that you don't need someone else there, holding your hand, you're capable of doing what you want. This will carry over into your pre-dating and dating life.
*Learn something new. Learning new things proves, again to yourself, that you're competent and capable. And it just might come in handy when you start dating someone.
*Set goals and achieve them. Knowing you have the ability to dream something up and then accomplish it is a huge confidence booster.
*Remember the things you're good at. If you're a good dancer, know a lot about movies or cartoons, think bugs are cool or have every baseball statistic memorized, or whatever it is: embrace it.
Communication
The flip side of the coin is communication. Communication is what gets the ball rolling. If you had the confidence to give someone you're number, but say "Um," for ten minutes on the phone when he calls, you'll never start dating. And if you're the one calling, but don't have anything to say, she'll save your number with a "don't answer" warning on her cell. If you can't communicate, you'll never get to know one another and the relationship is doomed from the get-go. Effective communication skills are essential to any and every dating relationship.
Better Communication Skills
Before you begin dating, or if you feel like you're relationship isn't going so well, work on your communication skills. Here are some pointers:
*Look at yourself in the mirror and practice what you want to say and even your expressions. It might remind you of being back in high school speech class, but the reason it worked then is because it gave you an idea of what you were doing. You don't need to tell the person you're dating – or anyone, for that matter.
*Practice listening. Listen to your mom, your annoying little brother, your whiny older sister, your best friend and the people you work with. Listening better will help you communicate better, because you'll remember the conversation better. When dating, listening to the other person is essential.
*Make eye contact with people.
*Ask questions. Asking questions and shows you're listening and trying to communicate.
It's not hard, just two little c-words. Confidence and communication. These two simple words can do more than just improving your dating life. People notice people who are confident and can communicate well, and you never know where that might lead.
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