Seduction Road map- Sexual framing and Sexual Attraction
This is work of Jon Sinn, A great add to PP, im break it down into parts to understand it better. Very Long post, but worth the read if you'r looking for a big boost in your game.
Let's get started.
Part1. Sexual anxiety
In order to go to part 2 of this article you must have no sexual anxiety, what's is sexual anxiety? And How do you know if you have sexual anxity?
Sexual anxiety- Nervousness related to any and all sexual interactions.
Symptoms: You worry about your sexual inexperience with women, you feel like you're not sure you can satisfy a woman, you feel uncomfortable with sexual escalation, nervous and have trouble escalting with women, nervous expressing sexual interest in a woman, feel sexually unconfident.
Assuming You have some experience in Pick-Up, this shouldn't be a problem, if not you should really get use to Approaching, escalation, getting use to sexual conversations, touching situations with a women.
Part 2: Sexual Attraction
There's 3 types of attraction.
Value based: Based on what value you have provide the girl.
Emotional: Reflects the attraction based on emotional stimulation.
Sexual Attraction: Reflects an unconcious and physical process that cannot be stopped.
Note: Sexual attraction can only occur when there is already some social comfort present. If you try to attract a women sexually to early you end up getting blown out for looking sexual needy. Sexual neediness is the biggest turn off women have.
5 Triggers of sexual attraction.
Social dominance- Loud clear voice, Control of the conversation material and focus. Self assured and self amusing. In control of hi9mself and the situation. Always leading, always has a plan.
Sexualized sterotype- Looks like a guy she will either have sex with or has ALWAYS wanted to have sex with. Ex. Rockstar, Rich Guy, Artist, metrosexual, guido.
Social Proof/status- It inspires group think and fedding frenzies, jelousy, status builds an authority frames which triggers compliant sexual attraction.
Sexual confidence- Demostrating promiscious behavior and attitudes, engages the go first principle and allows women to open up sexually. Being willing to discuss your own sex life in non sexually needy terms builds sexual attraction.
Arousal- can be achieved verbally or physically. What it is basically, an unconscious physical and mental process that begins with warm blush like feelings and leads to vaginal lubrication.
10 tools of sexual attraction.
1. sexualized touching- skin to skin contact, demostartion of strenght, touching with sexual intent, rubbing,scratching, caressing.
2.Sexualized teasing- Often seek to show the girl that she could not handle you sexually. "Look if you wanna throw your panties at me get it over with.." or "Whoever your last BF was did not spank you enough!"
3. Relationship ladders- Freindship, hitting on, trying to get in your pants, when we have sex.
4.Statement of intent. SOI- Let's her know what your planning on trying on later."Im totally hitting on you" or "I totally am thinking about kissing you
"
5. Sexual stories-diplays sexual confidence, GOOD= funny,embarrasing, happened to a friend. BAD= how you got laid one time, overtly graphic stories, being bad or good in bed.
6. Escalatiing Role plays- New GF for the next 10 min, convince other people your married or pregnant. She's your "wife".
7.Movement- Builds compliance and makes women feel they have known you longer. It establishes isolation and a conspiracy against the group that can accelerate sexual situations. Ex. Holding her hand while walking around a venue.
8.Bait- Makes the women invest in the interaction, and allows her to go sexual. Ex. "I totally had a naughty tought just now.." or "I could totally imagine you...nevermind"
9. Labeling and pushbacks- gives her an unflattering identity to push back against and can be used to get the girl to qulaify herself sexually. Ex. Shy, no one hits on her. Prude or Playette.
10.Reverse gender sterotypes- Allows sexualization of conversations. "She only wants me for sex" "Im on my period so nothing can happen" or "She's going to get me pregnant"
Part 3: Sexual Framing
Note: It begins when AFTER you have attraction during the qualification and comfort parts of a pick-up, or when you think it won't creep her out.
Sexual framing must be learned in the real world.
The You-her-us model.
You: things like grounding stories, and charcateristics to demostrate.
Her: You want to compliment and qualify her on.
4 Framing devices. Stories, Force framing, BHRRR, Double binds.
Sexual Framing Stories. 2 Types
1. Grounding: These stories set the frames about you and give the girl background on how you are going to act later on.
2. Metaphor These stories exist to set a frame or teach the girl some lessons related to our frames.
Compliment/standards framing
Setus up the frame by complimenting the women on how we WANT her to act.
Complimet-SOI- ReleaseStandards framing implies a relationship and gives the girl a reward for framing herself.
Ex "You're no the Dramatic type, right?"
BHRRR
Bait, hook, reel, release, rapport
This qualification mechanism gives us a great way to rewards girls for accepting our frames.
You bait by using small, medium and large hoops.
Double binds.
Questions or statements which result in the person accepting a frame no matter how they answer.
"Are you a typical san diego party girl?"
The 14 sexual Frames
1.Adventurous- Use small hoop, BHRRR. Bait: Are you adventurous? HOOK: yeah REEL: That's great i love adventurous people BECAUSE . . . RELEASE: Too bad you're such a dork. Note: you just framed her as more adventurous, therefore she will be more adventurous.
2.Spontaneous- Same as above. BHRR. BAit: Are you spontaneous? HOOK: Yes REEL: Awesome! i like people who are spontaneous BECAUSE. . . RELEASE: You suck!
3.Idependent- Compliment-SOI-Release.
Compliment: (she said or did something) i can tell you're independent, i love independent girls, who have their own lives and don't want to make me the center of their world.
SOI: I mean that even tough i'm totally hitting on you
Release: I do not like you!
4.Sexually aggressive- This article by LK explains it deeper.http://www.paragonproject.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=11799
5.Emotional or physical Type- You must sepearte girls into types to elicit their seduction strategy. PT: "so when your with someone you probably need to feel chemistry with that person you're with. And that's how you know you're attracted to this person. And you probably find an emotional connection comes after you feel a physical chemistry".
ET: "so when you're with someone you probably need to feel a deep connection with that person you're with. And that's how you know you're attracted to this person. In fact you need to feel really comfortable with this person to let go and enjoy the connection".
6.Good at keeping secrets- Frame "Us" how you don't kiss and tell, everything stays between both of you.
7.Decisive- Double bind, Frame her as "I love decisive people, are you decisive or do you suck?"
8.Goes for what she wants- Frame "You & her" Complimet-SOI-Release
Complimet: you totally seem like the type of girl who goes after what she wants and always gets it. I love people that are ambitious like that.
SOI: And i mean that even tough i'm thinking about kissing you.
Release: you are trouble!
9.Doesn't get cockblocked- Frame her as, Story, how she reminds you of your friend who always get's cockblocked and NEVER gets to do anything fun cause her friends always get in the way.
10.It won't get weird- Frame "Us" Story about how one of your friend had a one night stand and how people take sex too seriously.
11.Non judgemental- Frame "us" Compliment-SOI-Release
Compliment: i can tell you are really nonjudgemental, that's big requirement to be my friend, cause i don't judge.
SOI: And i mean that even tough i'm trying to get in your pants.
Release: You must have driven your last BF crazy!
12.Doesn't care what her friends think- BHRRR. BAIT: Are you the type of person who really cares a lot about what people think? HOOK: No REEL: That super important to me, i don't have time for worrying about what other people think about how i live my life. I'm glad you're the same way.
Release: We will NEVER get along.
Rapport: Have you ever done something you tought was gonna blow up no one cared?
13.Trust herself- Complimet-SOI-Release
Compliment: "Because you're so independent, i bet you
re the kind of person who really trust herself. Like i bet once you make a decision you don't worry about it anymore"
SOI: And i mean that even tough i think you are incredibly sexy.
Release: Too bad you're soo gross...
14.Has a good sense for people: BHRRR BAIT: are you intuitive person? HOOK: yes REEL: that's so important i could tell you have a good sense for people. You probably are able to figure out what people are about pretty quickly. I like that BECAUSE...
Release: You are such a pain in the ass!
Rapport: Have you ever met someone and known you were going to know them forever?
Part 4: Unleashing a woman's sexual sideNote: Subpersonalities, the average person has about a dozen subpersonalities, allows a person to cope with certain types of psychosocial situations, the mode may include toughts,feelings, actions, physiology, and other elements of human behavior to self=present a particular psychosocial situations.
Note: Sexualized Self image, what is self image? A person's self image is the mental picture, generally of a kind that is quite resistant tochange, that depicts not only details that are potentially available to objective investigation by others, but also items that have been learned by that person about himself or herself, either from personal experiences or by internalizing the judgments of others. A simple definition of a person's self image
is their answer to this question - "What do you believe peoplethink about you?"
3 tools for unleasing a woman's sexual side
Cold reads- Cold reads build momentum, we want to use less sexual cold reads in the beginning and build up to the super sexual cold reads, each ladder builds upon itself.
ex. "I can see you as being way too hesitant about things that you
like to do and more aggressive over things like…wait you totally have to have all the lights off when you are with a guy."
Sexual qualifiers- they are used to screen the girl for sexuality and get her used to complying sexually. BHRRR, or use "i like girls who.." statements.
Bait:What is your favorite
place on your body to be
kissed besides your lips?
Hook: Neck
Reel: Kiss her neck, then her
ears, and say " So you think,
this is better than this…"
Release: That's all you get. For
now.
Sex talk- refers to discussing sexual subjects, dirty talk, and statements of intent.
" You have no idea what I'm thinking about doing to you right now."
or " If no one was here right now, I would bend you over the table and take care of business".
Part 5: Non- verbal seduction
Non-verbal seduction: moving things towards sex without words. ex. body language, touching, and spatial relevance.
Why is it important?
It bridges the gap between verbal and physical escalation. Doing things that subcommunicate sex, you generate tons of sexual comfort.
3 channels of Non-verbal seduction
Body language- for attraction strong eye contact on the approach, feet shoulder width apart, shoulders relaxed and leaned back. Weight resting on your back foot. Slow steady movements.
For comfort: Open up more physically to the girl, you want to lean towards her, get your bodies physically closer.
For seduction: slowing down and moving with intent, it is conveyed through your facial expressions,eye contact and movement.
Touching- for attraction Touch on your opener. Keep touching, playful at first, think pushing her away, flicking her, bumping into her. Try to progress touching her hand or putting your arm around her.
For comfort: build sexual rapport, treat her as if you have already had sex. ex. touching her face, sharing drinks, walking holding hands, hugging and kissing.
For seduction: touching to build arousal, like jair pulling, neck biting, kissing her ears and neck, grabbing her waist, ass, and rubbing her inner tighs.
Spatial relevance- for attraction/refers to your movements into and out of her personal space. In attraction we want to preserve her comfort levels then violate them by getting too close to her when teasing her and then pulling away.
For comfort: build a shared space, talking within 6 inches of her face, and also causing subconscious touching of skin to skin.
For seduction: Moving into her space to arouse her and moving out of her space to push her away. Pulling is arousing and demostarting sexual intent while the pushing is when you physically push her away or deny her.
Framing it's very powerful and once you get it down it will boost your game alot.
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This was first published on the Seduction University Forums.
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