Not all girls are created equal. Some are smarter than others, some are prettier, and some are just plain crazy.
So how do you cope when you find you've hooked up with an unbalanced woman?
If your unhinged chick is otherwise perfect, you may well want to give the relationship a go - but, before you commit to anything, you need to figure out what her issues are and how you can deal with them.
I've addressed the most common problems below:
The Clingy Chick
She's the girl who sends you text messages on her way home from your first date. It seems sweet and flattering at the time, but before you know it you're being inundated by texts, calls and emails all demanding to know where you are and why you're avoiding responding to her.
You're going to have to tell her straight that you need your space. Cushion the blow by assuring her that you do really like her and that you love hearing from her every day or two, but remind her that you're a very busy man and won't always be available to chat. Never promise her a message if there's a chance you'll forget to send it.
The Jealous Girl
Her ex was a bad boy, so now she assumes that you are, too. In social situations, she doesn't leave your side. She sulks when she finds out your workmates are female. She has even started checking your cell phone for incriminating messages and unfamiliar feminine names.
Point out that while her preventative measures do make it impossible for you to cheat, they also make it impossible for you to prove that you can be trusted. Tell her that you can't and won't avoid talking to other women, but that she's the only one you would ever flirt with. And don't think that lying about who you (innocently) talk to or work with will make for an easier life - all your hard work will be undone the moment she uncovers the truth.
Your Future Wife
She knew the instant she met you that you were destined to be together; you need a little bit longer before you start hearing those weddings bells!
Deal with this as quickly as possible. Tell her you're crazy about her and that you really hope you've got a future together, then explain that you want to let the relationship evolve at its own pace. Agree a time when you will talk this over again - say, six months from now, or a year.
In this situation, lots of men start stressing their point. Every time their girl sees a baby or hears her friends are engaged, they cry, 'Thank heavens that's not us!' Don't do this - you'll only upset her. Accept that she knows how you feel about things and stop rubbing salt in her wounds!
The Real Crazies
When talking to unbalanced women, the trick is never to insult them or to imply that they have a problem. Explain what you need done right, rather than what she is doing wrong. Don't play her games. If she has mood swings, ignore them. If she cross-examines you, keep your temper. Don't give her reasons to get more upset.
If you've tried the tricks above and she's still bombarding you with phone calls and proposals, you have to accept that you're never going to change her. And if your date is making you miserable, ask yourself: do you want to stick around?
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Creeper
By: bogahome4 | 22-07-2008
I am dating a man I now consider a creeper. He stands in the corner of bars, wears gold chains and unbuttons his shirt to expose his chest hair. Any advice on how to get him to quit? My feeling is if any woman gave him attention he would leave me.
Do I continue pursuing this girl?
By: Tony | 21-07-2008
I am very smitten with a girl I met a few years ago at a music store I was working in. She was initially annoyed when I first called, (her number was on her demo CD), but came in about a year or so later and was friendly and seemed to be flirting a little. Given her initial reaction I wanted to ask her out, but didn't. I guess I was happy she was just being friendly.I've been sending her little notes on her My Space for the past year, and she hasn't responded. I finally got a chance to see her about two weeks ago, she did a CD signing at a show, I was surprised at the very warm reception I got. She gave me two very nice hugs, one was a lingering hug with her holding me very tight, and we chatted a little, she said she'd like to play some music with me sometime. I gave her my number and Email, and said I'd like to chat with her, and get together sometime. It's now almost 14 days, and I havn't heard anything. Should I give this one more try, and ask her directly to meet sometime or for her number/Email, or should I forget it?
A Little help
By: homer421 | 30-03-2008
why am i so nervous everytime I meet new people and when I either see or meet a chick I would like to approch I get so nervous and scared that I just say forget it and crawl back in my shell and end up alone as I have been now for 6 to 7 years
Where to go from here questions of a confused guy
By: LiveFast2011 | 02-03-2008
Ok sorry for some reason this didnt work the first time. Alright Ive pretty much fallen in love with a girl ive known forever and i am getting signals back from her but not exactly sure how to go about advancing things the situations.....complicated. Some background:Im a Preachers Son and she used to go to the church we attended before there was a big conflict and it split. We went one way her family stayed put. That was 3 years ago i hadnt seen her since, but than suddenly i got to high school and saw her and she...well she got absolutely beautiful. Come 2nd semester i find out i have 4th period with her and we sit right beside eachother. Now we started to catch up and she is just amazing, she always makes me laugh and shes one of 2 people that ive ever met who can make me smile no matter what. I always am messing around with her making her smile and laugh. Theres been some times when ive felt a spark but you can never trust that. One of her freinds keeps tellin me i should ask her out because she thinks shes keeping me open as an option but she doesnt really talk to her that much so i have no idea. All i know is that im in love with her and that i make her happy. If i dont get into one of the service academies than were Both going to the same college and we go to some of the same camps every summer. I just dont know if i should jump right into a relationship with her, having dropped off the face of the planet and just showing up 3 years later. I also dont even know how she really feels about me so i dont really want to bust in guns blazing. I just need some advice on how to carry on and how to find out her feelings without totally screwing myself over. THanks just ask if you have any questions about this. Josh
I m not a handsome or smart or goodlooking as my ...
By: FAYAZ | 04-12-2007
i m not a handsome or smart or goodlooking as my fellow mates use to look,but my problem is that i m in love with a girl who is in love with my friend.my friend doesnt love him and he is neither interested in her.he is ready to hand over her to me ,but she loves only her.she even proposed her.she doesnt talk to me,but i wanna talk to her,want to tell her about my feelings .plz suggest 4 simple ways to reach through her.
He never accepts my NO
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