GETTING READY FOR THE ENCOUNTER
Have you ever wondered how we sometimes tie ourselves in knots over seemingly simple matters? Ask a 100 guys "What is it the most difficult thing in life?" and when you get down to the brass tacks, you will find that 99 of them are bewildered about the right approach to take with a woman they want to spend more time with. And the 100th guy will be unsure of how to juggle the many women in his life because he loves them all!!
This is something that is not taught in any school or university, but can be learned by following a few fundamentals - the first of which is that There is no fixed formula for seducing the women. Nonetheless, there are certain do's and don'ts that can help you along the way. Ultimately it will be your personal magnetism which will pave the way. Most guys don't have it at first, but most manage to get it and develop it with practice and patience.
Each woman is unique and needs a different approach. If you appear to be following a set script, you might as well pack up and go home. But it would help if you had 50 different scripts prepared and can decide early in the game as to which one may work with your intended approach.
Preparation?? I can see some of you wrinkling your nose... Not Fair...
Why not? I ask you.. Seduction is a serious pursuit and not to prepare for it would tantamount to hara-kiri. Preparation will boost your confidence and working different approaches in advance will give you the flexibility to change your strategy mid-way.
Preparation :
Know Yourself
What are your weaknesses? What are your strengths? What can you talk about apart from your work and yourself? How much time and money are you willing to spend? How can you camouflage your weaknesses? How can you be subtle about your strengths, while getting her interested, also demonstrate being human by admitting a personal flaw, all at the same time?
Know Her
What are her likes & dislikes? Know her weaknesses so that you can ignore them at the right moment. Which of your strengths will appeal to her? What is about her that fascinates you? This again is very important. No girl will appreciate a man who tries to keep looking down her cleavage just because you think she has wonderful knockers. Right?
Check Compatibility, Be Realistic
It can be terribly hurtful to try for a female just because you have a crush on her, regardless of compatibility of chemistry or atmosphere. Usually, people find it easier to interact with their own kind, which is why whenever two strangers meet, they try to establish what they have in common. But, contrary to the popular belief, a common background is not important, a common interest is. And your first target is to arouse interest and see that it becomes a mutual thing.
Define Your Target
Why do you want to seduce her? Just to pass the time? / good company? Sex? Business? Marriage? For showing off? I know, I know what you are going to say. I know that most of the times all roads of seduction ultimately lead to bed. But not always. Again, be honest with yourself. How long do you desire her company. A few hours, a night, a day, a week, lifetime?
Decide your approach strategy
This is the most important part of preparation and deserves a full article to itself.
In the later parts I will list some of the questions that you always wanted to ask but were afraid to, and will try to provide answers.
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Frequently Asked Questions
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By: Jassygr | 06-02-2008
My best friend is finally single and I have been in love with him for years. What is the best way to seduce him and bring our relationship to the next level?
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By: Alice Gold | 24-12-2007
Is seduction some kind of sports to guys? Is there a game where the one who manages to seduce as many girls as possible wins some sorts of trophy or something? Because I can't explain male behavior otherwise.
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By: wannabee | 20-12-2007
Have you ever been seduced? Or have you ever tried to seduce someone? Was the experience worthwhile?
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what words can you use exactly to talk dirty?
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