There is one question I get ALL the time from my readers...
Typically it'll be something like this:
"Scott, I'm pretty good with women. I can flirt with them and make them attracted to me. But when it comes time to make things more intimate, I have trouble bringing women back to my house. How can I make a woman want to go back to my house"
From the amount of emails I receive, this problem seems pretty widespread. Fortunately there is a very simple technique for getting a woman back to your home.
Here's how to do it...
First you must understand something about meeting and attracting women:
If you can't get a woman back to your house, you have NO chance of seducing or having sex with her. You can try every pick up or attraction trick you know, but they won't work if she doesn't want to go home with you.
The truth is you only need one thing to dramatically increase your chances of success. It's called:
TRUST
The only way a woman will want to be alone with you is if she trusts you. If you can prove you're a normal guy and not some wacko, then she'll feel comfortable enough to go home with you.
So from the moment you meet a woman, you have to act like a trustworthy person. Don't say or do anything too weird. Simply do things which will make her feek safe within your presence.
Now once you have her trust you have to make your request about going back to your house seem like a casual comment. In other words, don't seem too nervous or overeager.
Women can easily detect when a guy is high strung about getting them to his house. So you can't act too excited. In fact, make your request seem completely natural,
One technique which works incredibly well is to talk about something you have back at your house. All you have to do is mention it during your conversation. (Just make sure it's something which she would find interesting) For instance you could talk mention one of the following:
* A stupid pet trick
* A cool home video
* An art piece
* An interesting music
The key is to ensure you've built up enough excitement and expectation about this particular item. Now to make this work, you have to make sure you're within close proximity of your house.
One trick is to get a ride home from her. Then when you've reached your house, you can say something like:
"Hey I've got that _____ I was talking about. Come inside and check it out. But I'll have to kick you out afterwards"
When you say a statement like this, you're reducing the pressure of the request because you're not appearing to be too aggressive. In addition, you're creating a safe atmosphere, because you're not acting like a sex fiend. Basically you're acting like a confident guy who wants to show her something.
Then once she's inside, you can allow nature to take its course!
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I told him I love him after 3 years, he says he ...
By: Indbff | 17-08-2008
I told him I love him after 3 years, he says he "'kinda sorta"' likes me?
explain?
Creeper
By: bogahome4 | 22-07-2008
I am dating a man I now consider a creeper. He stands in the corner of bars, wears gold chains and unbuttons his shirt to expose his chest hair. Any advice on how to get him to quit? My feeling is if any woman gave him attention he would leave me.
Do I continue pursuing this girl?
By: Tony | 21-07-2008
I am very smitten with a girl I met a few years ago at a music store I was working in. She was initially annoyed when I first called, (her number was on her demo CD), but came in about a year or so later and was friendly and seemed to be flirting a little. Given her initial reaction I wanted to ask her out, but didn't. I guess I was happy she was just being friendly.I've been sending her little notes on her My Space for the past year, and she hasn't responded. I finally got a chance to see her about two weeks ago, she did a CD signing at a show, I was surprised at the very warm reception I got. She gave me two very nice hugs, one was a lingering hug with her holding me very tight, and we chatted a little, she said she'd like to play some music with me sometime. I gave her my number and Email, and said I'd like to chat with her, and get together sometime. It's now almost 14 days, and I havn't heard anything. Should I give this one more try, and ask her directly to meet sometime or for her number/Email, or should I forget it?
How to attract a man
By: cheriann | 12-04-2008
how can i attract a man who is not interested?
Do you think I offended him?
By: wearthegrudge | 28-03-2008
I stayed over my friends the other night, I borrowed his long t-shirt for when I went to bed (it's big for me so it covers the top of my legs i'd changed into the top by taking my other cloths off underneath so nothing was seen, then i just took my jeans off) Anyway my friend was chatting to me when he turned back after I changed he glanced down at my legs as he continued talking but then looked back at my face quickly, he glanced again during the conversation. Also a week or so before I'd stayed over and wore the same thing and he gave me the same look when I was leaving the room to get something (looked down at my legs) Once before I was waring black tights and a normal skirt and I was laying on my front playing video games next to him and I saw him glance at my skirt. I'm just worried that either he's being a perv OR he is dissaproving? (but its not a disgusted look) of what I was wearing (i normally wear shirts and jeans) btw me & my friend had a brief "thing/affair" some time ago
Umm is he COMING onto me? :/ or not?
By: wearthegrudge | 09-03-2008
My friend has a gf but the other day I was round his house late, and I was happy to leave (i've left that late before) but he asked me to sleep the night I said ok. Anyway last time I slept over I slept on the floor, this time his male friend was round and was sleeping on the floor (there was probs room on the floor for me too) So I ended up sleeping in his bed with hi(it was a double bed, but we slept close and facing eacother, our legs and stuff were touching "accidently" but at one point he had like his knees tucked in my stomache, (btw Me and my friend had done stuff with eachother a couple of years back but never dated) also recently he was acting really jealous about some guy i was friends with, and he touches me a lot (subtley on the hand or back once he was talking to me ata gig and his face was really close his nose resting on my closed eye ) and if we sit next to eachother and our arms/knees touch he dont move em, am I just reading to mcuh into things or is he trying it on?
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