The Loser Boyfriend

Loser Boyfriends are as Unwanted to Moms as Finding a Hair in a Biscuit

As the mother of your teenage daughter, have you ever thought "My daughter's boyfriend looks like he's been beat with an ugly stick and I'm talking about his character, not his face?" While evaluating the girlfriend/boyfriend relationship, have you ever wondered what she could possibly see in the guy she's so gaga over? If so, you are not alone.

"The Secrets to Having the Teenage Daughter you Actually Like" with Dr. Cheryl Guy

Where do those bad boyfriends come from? If you think they come out from underneath rocks, you are wrong. They actually can rear their ugly heads from the church youth group your daughter is involved in. They can come from the house right down the road from you as well. Be aware that a bad boyfriend does not have LOSER stamped across his forehead. The guys with whom you think would be good boyfriend material for your daughter can very easily deceive parents of his true loser qualities. Remember Eddie Haskel?

The fact is, teenagers have raging hormones and as these little hormones are bouncing and crashing around in their maturing bodies, teens do absolutely stupid things. They make asinine decisions and they try their best to fool the adults around them who may be onto their "game".

Even though your daughter may be fooled (so you think), do not be caught sleeping on the job mom! Your presence is even more needed during the hormone high times in your daughter's life.

Here's dating tip I: If he treats his mother with respect and dignity, he is more apt to treat his girlfriend the same way.

Make sure your daughter is aware of tip II: If in conversations that involve his mother, he refers to her in ways that rhymes with witch or ditch, your daughter should watch out because she could be the next one he is convinced who rides a broom.

We do teach people how to treat us; if your daughter allows her boyfriend to refer to her parents in a disrespectful manner, her silence only reinforces that behavior to continue. Pretty soon, his views could begin to cloud hers and conflict within the family occurs.

Usually the above signs are early warning signals of things to come in a relationship. In my book The Secrets to Having the Teenage Daughter You Actually Like, I provide other Family Observations to be mindful of during the "getting to really know you" phase of the friendship or relationship. She needs to always keep in mind that the type of guy a girl involves herself with is a reflection of how she sees herself.