Using Love poems in Dating

She slammed the book shut and declared she wanted a man to love her that way. We were at a crowded restaurant and she had been reading the love poems of Pablo Neruda. After reading these great love poems, she had a longing look of a woman searching for love., she was the typical woman on a first date, just feeling out if she could be in a relationship with me. The love poems transformed her by getting her in touch with what it is to be in love. Love poems, those staples of Valentines Day, are powerful for any date like this first date. I, then, recited some of my love poems and I, too experienced love. We left hand in hand. Such is the power of love poems. They make us feel the experience of love. As an example, read the following poem out loud by Ernesto Tinajero:

Then She Cooks Dinner

I taste her floral broccoli steamed with butter,

sprinkled with red chili pepper flakes,

and mixed with sherry vinegar. It makes

her subtle side dish tangy. This hotter

meal preludes her lasting dessert of tart

berries tinged with the milk chocolate

top with heavy cream. The velvety taste rockets

from her delicate rich hands that cart

her tenderness to this meal of our passions.

My skin, created by food long ago consumed,

Holds a unbreakable eager fork, a presumed

Utensil of blending.  Shared food fashions

Us into red blood, flesh, and living cells.

Let us eat after answering the dinner bells.

Not only will reading the poem make a bit hungry, it will heighten your sensuality. Love poems, whether by Ernesto Tinajero or Pablo Neruda, are powerful in getting humans into the experience of romance. Science is staring to give an explanation as to why they work. With the discovery of mirror neurons in the 80s and 90s at the University of Parma, Italy, the riddle of why reading the experience of love poems makes experience love is beginning to be solved. And the answer may help your dating life. Mirror neurons fire the same way for both the experience and for the imagining of the experience. Much like our woman at the restaurant reading love poems, we suddenly started experiencing love by reading love poetry. We start having the same experience by imaging the experience.

That is why it is not necessary to write the love poetry. In fact, it works better to use the poems of professionals like Tinajero or Neruda. Why? They have learned their craft and can relate the experience of love in a rich language. They are masters of rhythm and imagery and their art. Take love songs, usually just singing a great love song is better that trying to record your own. The professional love poet, like the professional songwriter, knows how to covey love in a lush language. You don't even need to say that the you wrote the poem, because the experience of love is what is being transmitted. Also, if you try to pass of the poems as written by you, it could lead to problems down the road. Better to read them straight.

So how best to use love poems? Plan a special night, like first date, valentines, or even a Saturday night date. By a book of poems like Tinajero's Love Poems for Valentines or Neruda's hundred love sonnets and look for poems that touch you. Bring poems and just ask her to listen to these poems and ask her if she ever felt such passion in love. Wine, good food and good words will have an effect on the both of you. Soon, both of you will experience the same love that the great love poets experience. The evening will be spiced by the love poems. Great love deserves great words. Great love words will make us experience great love.