What Women Want in Men: Part 1

While I cannot speak for women nor can a woman speak for all women, there are characteristics the majority of women want in a man. I have read several books, subscribed to attraction newsletters, talked to attraction experts, talked to women about what they want in a man, tested techniques, and have observed many scenarios comparing and contrasting variables men display in their interaction with women to develop a set of characteristics men can develop to build their attractiveness towards women.

Additionally, I have heard and seen a lot of wrong advice on this subject from so-called experts. In fact, a great deal of this "expert advice" is heavily diffused into society beliefs and norms. Many guys have been wrongly conditioned as to what women really want. I do not blame them. Attraction is a really confusing subject.

What I am going to teach will probably shock you.

I can guarantee you other communication skills teachers would definitely not tell you what I am about to say. That is because most of these teachers do not understand how attraction with women works. These teachers will not tell you these skills because they are pretty much counter-intuitive to what "good communication" is. I was once the same.

Do not think attracting a lady is not applicable to you. If you are in a relationship, this advice will help you almost as much as a single guy who is looking for a partner.

Women are Mixed-Up

Women saying one thing and meaning another thing is a whole other article itself yet I will briefly explain it to give you an understanding as to what women say they want is often not what they really want.

I agree that women are strange. Half of what they say has exactly the opposite meaning. This is where the main problem I will discuss more later on about being nice to lady comes in.

I use to think, you probably think, and a high percentage of guys think, that you have to compliment a lady, give gifts, buy her flowers, and basically earn her affection. The technique may work for a little while but you will not have the powerful attraction otherwise possible by not being a nice guy and it will leave you broke ;).

Attraction is a confusing subject. Guys and women often cannot explain why they are attracted to someone. Attraction is not a logical decision.

For women, they often say they like guys with humor, which I and attraction experts believe is true, but it is not the whole story. A woman can say she likes a guy with a sense of humor but a good sense of humor alone is not enough. What they often find attractive is a guy who is cocky and has a sense of humor. Ladies are not crawling all over comedians.