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When you *are* a Man, you Don’t Have to *act*
 It’s like some kind of bizarre, ritualistic tradition at this point. If you go into the “dating guru” business—and you are male (notice I didn’t’ say ‘a man’, necessarily)—it’s practically an expected rite of passage that you harp on “outer game” so as to somehow prove to your audience that you have some “game”. Apparently, it’s incumbent upon you as a “Master PUA” to demonstrate to all the guys out there who care that you can throw down hilarious lines on demand; mix in an outrageous individual style; go by a one name “handle” as if he were “Prince”, “Sting”, “Ronaldinho”, “Liberace” or “Madonna”; and practice “cult persuasion” tactics and “NLP” like a master. THEN… all the guys who’ve never had any experience with women will want to be JUST LIKE YOU (which is apparently available for the mere sum of $2000 USD or so per weekend). In other words, if you are a “Seduction Trainer”, your job is basically to seduce YOUR AUDIENCE. Whether women really respond to what is taught is really of secondary importance. First, the guys have to think you are cool. Besides, so what if it doesn’t work so well with women (especially outside of the NYC or LA metro areas)? That just means guys will have to stick around longer with the promise of learning more “secrets”.So what’s the deal here? You’re probably guessing that I don’t think any of the “outer game” stuff works. Well, I have a confession to make—right here, right now. Although virtually all of you who have read a good bit from me are not used to hearing things out of my mouth like what I am about to say, now is the time to do so: YES…”outer game” does work. It works amazingly well. In fact, I personally have an arsenal of outstanding lines for whichever situation you can think of, run a full line of cool magic tricks (including the “push a glass through the table” bit that rules on dinner dates), play acoustic guitar, have a closet full of viciously stylish threads to wear downtown and a own a certain Italian motorcycle with a carbon exhaust system.Oh, and another thing. I also have the most amazing woman I’ve ever met coming home from running errands here any minute. That’s because she lives here. And I married her. And she’s pregnant with my son…on purpose. And importantly, she’s sticking around for precisely NONE of the reasons I cited in the previous paragraph. You see, fellas, it’s like this. For starters, there are already plenty of places you can go to stock up on “outer game” tactics. I’m even beginning to believe that “focusing on inner game” IS ITSELF an “outer game” tactic sometimes. So the last thing you need is me piling on.But there’s something more important at the core of all this. The issue at play here is the message that “outer game” is what comes first. I strongly believe that either explicitly or implicitly we as guys are being told—and constantly—that if we have “no game” all we have to do is “learn some”…and “practice”.Have you stopped to learn that all of this “peacocking” is just an act? It’s an empty shell. Let’s say you actually GET a woman’s attention. Uhh…then what? Sooner than later, you are going to have to admit to her—by words AND actions—who you really are. And the “tricks” and “tactics” won’t carry you through that part. You have got to BE a man, you can’t just go through the motions of trying to “outer game” her perpetually. That’s pretty much a ridiculous thought, anyway, isn’t it?So here it is: If you are a REAL MAN (which we do spend a lot of time harping on around here) the “outer game” act can be virtually nonexistent, and women will LOVE LOVE LOVE you anyway. Be a confident man who makes decisions, has life under control, carries himself with strength and does what he says he’s going to do and your “outer game” can theoretically go no further than taking a shower and matching your belt to your shoes. This all goes double if you can cause great women to feel comfortable in your presence. In such case you are well on your way to igniting femininity in precisely those great women who can appreciate a great man.But lack all those REAL MAN traits, and I don’t care if you’re the David Freaking Blaine of “outer game”. Great women with real options (who are the high-end focus of interest in these parts) will summarily roll their eyes and whisper “dork” at you if you roll up on them with nothing more than that kind of emptiness. Really. I promise.Sorry to break this to you if you’ve been previously brainwashed into thinking you could trick a great woman into liking you and have it hold up for more than ten minutes. (WAIT…is that where the “get in her pants in under ten minutes” pitch I’ve heard elsewhere comes from…social necessity?) You’ve got to be a great man. You’ve got to deserve what you want. If you are new to this newsletter, stay tuned…you’ll hear more how that looks and feels every week.But wait, didn’t I just say that “outer game” really works? Absolutely. But ONLY after you have succeeded in deserving what you want as a great man. “Outer game” is like icing on the cake. But if you’ve ever eaten icing without the cake, you probably became ill more quickly than you possibly could have expected. That’s a valid analogy. Nonetheless, once a woman recognizes that you are a man of strong character and masculine presence, then feel free to enrich your time together by charming her socks off with every “stupid human trick” and impeccably-timed zinger you can carry. My personal favorite is to subtly produce “hidden” skills and inane talents out of nowhere when called for…especially after knowing her for a while. The--and only then--will you have great women smiling, shaking their heads in wonderment and uttering the magic words “you’re amazing”. Ladies don’t shout me down for telling the truth.
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