Why Did My Boyfriend Dump Me? - Three Common Reasons

Why Did My Boyfriend Dump Me? - Three Common Reasons

Breakups have a pretty good reputation for being almost life-destroyingly difficult to handle. The pain and loneliness of being alone all of a sudden can nearly cripple people, and even worse is that if you had seen it coming beforehand you probably could have prevented it.

There are several things that you'll usually see in the relationship when you look back at what was wrong and why he left...and even if it's too late to stop the breakup from happening, that doesn't mean you can't fix the problems once you've identified them and get back together!

1)      An overly-affectionate girlfriend may seem sweet to other women, but most guys understand what a terror it really is when the dreaded "L-word" pops up right before or immediately after the first time you two "do it." This is what's called "pressing the gas way too fast." It's not just about that sort of thing, either...it can go much further than that.

The frightening, suffocating woman can take two forms: the overly needy and clingy type that seems like a helpless lovestruck little girl, and the controlling, demanding she-devil that seems intent on commanding your very thoughts. Neither is fun to deal with for a guy, and both will usually make him head for the hills.

If you've let this kind of behavior get away from you and have thus driven the poor man to the streets, all I can advise is that you work on a little bit of reserve. Try to ease up on the guy and not be so intimidating. Some guys like a challenging woman...others have nightmares about it.

2)      Another pretty sad reason for breaking up is when a relationship gets stale, boring, and just kind of fades out. When the joy of just being together wears off and everybody starts just going through the motions...trouble hits, and in my opinion there's nothing more tragic than a relationship that just dies from old age. Even if the shiny has kind of worn off of your relationship, you two should still delight in each other's company! Being with someone you love is the best thing on earth!

If your relationship is either in trouble from this or has taken a big fall from it, it's actually a bit easier of a problem to fix than some of the other things that end relationships. All you have to do is rediscover what brought you together in the first place. Find things you share interests in that make you both happy, and do them together! The love is still there, it's just been covered over by life. Dust it off and take some joy in just having somebody to share that bond with!

3)      As much as I hate having to say this, unfaithfulness is one of the biggest causes of breakups these days...and there's no excuse for it. Cheating on the person you love and who loves you back is the most low, dirty, scumbag thing a person can do...and it's a freaking pandemic these days. Both men AND women have been having serious difficulties keeping their pants on around others, and it shatters more relationships that virtually any other cause.

The best way to keep this from ruining any chance of ever having a happy life with your partner is simply not to do it. Ever. It's only human decency, for crying out loud. There's no reason why 15 minutes (or less) of pleasure should be worth emotionally crippling the person you love and who loves you more than anything else in the world.

However, if you've slipped up and had a 'lapse,' I've seen couples get over it. I have no idea WHY the broken-hearted take back cheating partners...but it does happen. If you can apologize enough and eventually get back together...take a lesson from it and never do it again.

Regardless of what the problem is that's keeping you from enjoying a life with the person you love, most relationships that are strong enough can survive some pretty heavy issues...but only if you stop making the mistakes or address the problem in such a way that it stops affecting your relationship.

Getting your ex to take you back is only half the battle...you have to keep him or her back...and to do that you have to have a little respect for your partner and not do things that make the love you share not enough to hold you together.

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