Most of us guys hate rejection with a passion. We hate it so much that we would rather not even bother to approach a woman if we think that she is more likely to reject us. Yeah, it is a big problem.
What can you do about it? You need to understand it. Once you understand it you will realize that it's not that big of a deal. What is a big deal is that fear and anxiety you get that stops you from approaching her.
Why She Might Reject You
Most rejection falls under two different categories.
1.You weren't really rejected.
2.You did something dumb and that annoyed her.
For the first one you need to realize that most rejection isn't rejection. If a woman is married or has a boyfriend that's not rejection. It just isn't. The point of approaching her is to see if she is available or not.
What about if you say something to a woman and she doesn't say anything back? Is that rejection? Is she ignoring you? Sure she could be. But she could also be deaf, on her way to an emergency, really busy, or just not open to meeting new people at that moment.
If anything you can't always blame yourself for being rejected. It's just easy for you to assume that you must have done something wrong. In many cases if you asked the woman what you did wrong she probably would even say "You did nothing wrong." Those are just a few things for you to keep in mind.
Number two might not always be that obvious. Usually a woman will reject you if it falls under a couple different circumstances.
1.If she fears for her safety.
2.You say something that is very offensive to her.
Are you stalking her? Are you following her around? Are you staring at her? Do you look nervous? Did you touch her somewhere you shouldn't have? These are things that make a woman fear for her life. If you creep her out you will be rejected.
You can get away with offending a woman. If you do it by teasing and with humor you probably will get away with it. But you do have to be careful.
Here are a few things you need to be careful with.
- If you offend her race.
- If you offend something about her body that she is sensitive too.
- If you offend someone she is close to like a friend or family member.
- If you say something that is too sexual to her as soon as you meet her.
- If you say something stupid.(Can I smell your hair?, Can I lick your toes?)
Now you know why a woman might rejected you. The next step is to start approaching women so that you can overcome that fear. You just can't beat real experience.
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