Win At The Pickup And Dating Game Instead Of Just Getting By

This article is for guys of any age.  It will guide you to feeling much more confident about talking with women and making yourself more attractive to them.  By the time you reach the end of this article you will be well on your way to winning at the Pickup and Dating game instead of just getting by.

How can we make something that sounds so simple, so difficult and frustrating.  First, guys are great talking to each other about guy things, sports, computers, cars, home repair, and so forth.  We continue right along talking about the ups and downs of our dating relationships.  But, we do not know what we are talking about for the simple reason that we do not know how women think.  Women do not think like guys!  We must take time out to learn how they think.

Many men think that touching a girl in any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that is simply not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and create an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get talking, casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while at the same time verbally expressing something.  It is important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you have already created and also helps build it further, into mutually felt attraction.  Try to use a contact close when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss.

When you find yourself talking to a group of girls, use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls.  However, when you are talking to your target female, occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls and give a slight smile before looking back at your target. This gives a sense of competition to the girl you are really interested in and immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.

Getting girls to feel an attraction for you - that is not simply based on your looks, the contents of your wallet or the car you have got parked outside - can be really tricky.  For example, most men think saying:  Can I have your number? is an okay way to finish a conversation that has gone well with a girl. But there is a much more powerful and effective way of saying the same thing.  Something like: It has been nice to meet you. Shall we swap numbers or maybe grab a bite to eat and a drink tomorrow? What you are doing is presenting the girl with a choice between good and better - whichever she says yes to, you win. If you only give her one option, as in the first example, she is likely to create her own alternative, which means there is a chance she will not say yes to the option you gave her.

Men who are successful with women create that success for themselves - not through luck or good fortune.  Always look your best.  This sounds really obvious but you would be surprised by how many men do not understand the importance of this simple tip. You never know when the girl of your dreams will turn up, or where. And it is become a bit of a cliche because it is true - first impressions really do count.  Make sure you smell good.  Again this is extremely important.  Remember how you feel when a woman walks by you and she smells soooo good - you feel an instant attraction even though you do not know her - well, that is how women feel too.

Body language is very important. It is more important to pay careful attention to how you say things, and how you stand and how you act than it is to what you say (at least initially).

Do not limit yourself to singles bars for meeting women.  There are other better places, shopping malls for one.  Walk around the shopping mall and when you catch a womans eye, smile at her – more often than not, she will smile back. To start with you can do this just with shop employees. Even if they do not want to smile, they probably will. Good practice, and you might even brighten a few womens lives a little.  Not big weird freak smiles, just nice, natural friendly ones. A lot of women will smile back at you.  After you have smiled and said hi to 20 or 30 women, you should start to feel good about yourself. 

I wish women had shared these kinds of tips when I was growing up.  I could have saved myself from a lot of relationships that went nowhere, and the heart break that went with it.