Women Approaching Men and Why It’s Not Good For Men

The ultimate fantasy for many guys is that we all lived in a world where it was the woman who was expected to approach the guy in social situations. These guys imagine that transferring the “burden” of making the first move and risking rejection onto women would be the best thing that ever happened to them.

 

  

To this effect, there are many articles on the Internet describing in detail how you can get women to approach you. Of course, unless you are a bartender, DJ, or in some position of power or leadership, most of these strategies only work for the hottest looking guys. And then even rarely for them.

 

 

Despite advances in equality for men and women, which has greatly empowered women in our society, the social norm has always been, and probably always will be, that it’s the man’s responsibility to make the first approach and initiate contact. In my opinion, not only is this how it should be, but that men should be jumping for joy that it is.

 

 

While this “women approaching men” concept may seem like a no-brainer to those guys who are scared to death to approach anything female, the grass is not always greener on the other side. Yes there is pressure on us guys who are expected to make the first move, but women don’t have it so great either.

 

 

Women’s social options are basically restricted to fending off every would-be player, jerk, loser, obnoxious drunk, and sex-starved scumbag within the radius of some inadvertent eye contact while she waits around for that ONE guy who may have an ounce of substance to him.

 

 

In contrast, the social options for guys are unlimited. We have the green light to approach ANY WOMAN ANYWHERE who we find the least bit desirable or interesting with virtually no limits or restrictions imposed and no social stigma or judgment attached. Why any guy in the world would you want to give up this gift from the universe is beyond me.

 

 

Most of the guys who say they want women to approach them will say its because they are either shy, or that they have been rejected in the past and they just don’t want to put themselves through the emotional turmoil again. Well all I can say to that is BOO HOO!!

 

 

OK, I do have some sympathy to this way of thinking because it tells me these guys have a low self-confidence in regards to their interaction with women. This is not necessarily a psychological problem, but rather a social one. Most of these guys have NO IDEA how attraction works with women, and have been shot down time after time with literally no idea what they doing wrong. Because of this, they are terrified of taking any more blows to their now fragile and beaten down egos.

 

 

What these guys need to do is educate themselves in the art of attraction and learn what it is that women respond to in a positive way. Once they learn this, they can slowly and carefully begin wading back in to the approaching, dating, and relationship waters by trying out different approaches and techniques to see what works best for them and their own unique personality.

 

  

Only when they start getting a positive response from women and their confidence begins to return will they then see the tremendous value, and privilege, of being free to approach any woman anywhere without having to stand on the sidelines waiting around for someone they like to approach them.