Brain Injuries - Anger, Frustration and Bumps In The Road

<h1>Brain Injuries - Anger, Frustration and Bumps In The Road</h1>Author: <a title="Sylvia Behnish" href="http://www.articlesbase.com/authors/sylvia-behnish/125639.htm">Sylvia Behnish</a> When living with someone who has sustained a traumatic brain injury, there will no doubt always be some anger, frustration, irritability and bumps in the road when things don't go as expected, as wanted or take longer than anticipated. Things happen to all of us and when they do we learn, as we mature, to accept those situations that are often beyond our control.  However, when someone has experienced a brain injury, there is a self-centered way of looking at a situation.  Because those who have experienced brain injury are often like young children again, it is hard for them to accept the fact that things don't always happen when they want them to. This has been the case since my partner had his motorcycle accident.  He became very frustrated and irritable when it took longer than he expected to get an Assessment regarding being able to drive again; while he waited for his subsequent driver's license and, when on our first family vacation after his accident - (probably as a result of being out of his comfort zone).  The most recent time was when we didn't get away in our motorhome when it was hoped we would.  He eventually in frustration, set off for a trip on his own.  When someone has a brain injury, anger and frustration will often lurk just below the surface when things don't go smoothly. I have noticed with my partner that his anger is usually fueled by frustration.  It can also be the result of a loss of emotional control or any perceived lack of control.  For many people there is a trigger to anger and frustration.  It can be a high level of noise, long line-ups, being asked to do something they are no longer capable of doing, fatigue or anything that makes them uncomfortable. As caregivers it is up to us to try to keep things running as smoothly as possible but because we are human, this doesn't always happen.  We can assist our family member by trying to encourage them to increase their self-awareness by determining the causes of their anger, have them attempt to calm down when they feel themselves becoming frustrated, practice thinking before reacting in anger and avoid a situation that can create frustrations. As Mark Victor Hansen said, "Things will never be perfect.  There are always challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions." And a quote by Bob Greene, "Setbacks are bumps in the road; they are not the end of the road."About the Author: Sylvia Behnish has published her first non-fiction book entitled 'Roller Coaster Ride With Brain Injury (For Loved Ones)'. It is a story that tells of their journey along the path of progress during their first year following her partner's brain injury. Sylvia has had numerous articles published in newspapers and magazines in both Canada and the United States.

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When living with someone who has sustained a traumatic brain injury, there will no doubt always be some anger, frustration, irritability and bumps in the road when things don't go as expected, as wanted or take longer than anticipated.

Things happen to all of us and when they do we learn, as we mature, to accept those situations that are often beyond our control. However, when someone has experienced a brain injury, there is a self-centered way of looking at a situation. Because those who have experienced brain injury are often like young children again, it is hard for them to accept the fact that things don't always happen when they want them to.

This has been the case since my partner had his motorcycle accident. He became very frustrated and irritable when it took longer than he expected to get an Assessment regarding being able to drive again; while he waited for his subsequent driver's license and, when on our first family vacation after his accident - (probably as a result of being out of his comfort zone). The most recent time was when we didn't get away in our motorhome when it was hoped we would. He eventually in frustration, set off for a trip on his own. When someone has a brain injury, anger and frustration will often lurk just below the surface when things don't go smoothly.

I have noticed with my partner that his anger is usually fueled by frustration. It can also be the result of a loss of emotional control or any perceived lack of control. For many people there is a trigger to anger and frustration. It can be a high level of noise, long line-ups, being asked to do something they are no longer capable of doing, fatigue or anything that makes them uncomfortable.

As caregivers it is up to us to try to keep things running as smoothly as possible but because we are human, this doesn't always happen. We can assist our family member by trying to encourage them to increase their self-awareness by determining the causes of their anger, have them attempt to calm down when they feel themselves becoming frustrated, practice thinking before reacting in anger and avoid a situation that can create frustrations.

As Mark Victor Hansen said, "Things will never be perfect. There are always challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions."

And a quote by Bob Greene, "Setbacks are bumps in the road; they are not the end of the road."

Sylvia Behnish has published her first non-fiction book entitled 'Roller Coaster Ride With Brain Injury (For Loved Ones)'. It is a story that tells of their journey along the path of progress during their first year following her partner's brain injury. Sylvia has had numerous articles published in newspapers and magazines in both Canada and the United States. To order 'Roller Coaster Ride With Brain Injury (For Loved Ones) go to: orders@trafford.com or phone toll-free 1-888-232-4444 Website: http://www.talesbysylvia.com Blog: http://www.progressofabraininjury.blogspot.com Blog: http://www.sbehnish.blogspot.com

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