Are You Facing New Year Alone - Can That Special Someone Out There as Lonely as Me Help

As we run up to the New Year there is a great many folk who wait in anticipation to celebrate the coming of the New Year. These same people may have broken the bank to buy a new party dress for the New Year`s dance or even bought one for some else. They may have also paid through the nose to host a New Year`s Eve party for friends and family. Anyhow, whatever their preference in what way or how they let their New Year in, is their prerogative. The build up for this actual event is somewhat fantastic, if not phenomenal to say the least. Seeing the countless number of jolly expressions on people`s faces tells us how popular and special this occasion is, and how much it means to them.

Sadly, we then have the expressionless, although loving everything about the New Year, these people find it difficult to celebrate and join in the fun because, a special person they once may have cared for has walked out of their life all of their own choosing, or that of God`s. For these saddened people "loneliness" brings unbearable pain. It`s easy for those without suffering, to tell them with, to snap out of it and everything will be fine. This is great advice and your intentions no doubt is to mean well, however we do not look to treat headache pain here, but one of to console the pain of a broken heart. Lonely people can be sensitive to nature`s of goodwill and are best left alone till they are ready. When is ready, only they know that, and will never be ready if pushed. Although you mean well, offering a shoulder may not be the solution, only the saddened have the fix and that will come in due time. Your support of being there is enough should they need you. This may sound selfish but you have to remember that you can only do so much. New Year is about you as well, so you must not drain yourself of energy on those who purposely refuse to be cheerful.

New Year can be a sad experience because of many things. Looking back on the year that's passed and ahead to the New Year is not always a pleasant experience, especially if you have had a disappointing or upsetting past 12 months. If you are one of these people then there is help out there that you should take advantage of.

Over the New Year period a holiday careline is usually set up and run by caring people that are there to listen. In some cases this is all takes for you to be happy again. For instance: you pour your heart out and they wipe away your tears. These listeners have a compassionate understanding towards your problems. They are not there to make "you forget" your troubles but more like help you mislay them for a short while, till you are strong enough to lose them troubles yourself forever (depending on circumstance.) Careline numbers are normally televised like a sub titles during a popular program. If you are feeling low or lonely you can call this number and talk to someone who'll listen and offer support. Sometimes it just helps to talk about your experiences.

Speak to your doctor if you feel it necessary and ask to be put in touch with a counselor. What would we do without family? Speak to a family member on how you are feeling because if they don't know of your problems they can't help. You may feel like you are putting on them, but hey listen up, blood is thicker than water and they will want to help. If your worry involves family then talk to a close friend. If you are the basic lonely person and find you can manage to support your own self throughout this time then consider helping others who can`t. Become a volunteer for them more in need of company and comfort. Charities and homeless shelters are always looking for volunteers but never more so than over the holidays. If you don't want to be alone this New Year donate your time to a charity. Become a Samaritan to others and surprise yourself at how trivial your concerns were, in comparison to certain traumas that go on in other people's lives. If you are considering travelling to get away from it all, fine, but remember New Year is celebrated all around the world, so trying to evade the midnight cheer you might find impossible.

If you choose your destination wisely you may sleep through letting in the New Year because certain countries, celebrate at different times. Nevertheless what you need to remember is, you still have to wake up to find that you are still very much part of the New Year, like it or not. Why not take things easy and join in with the fun, you don't have to go mad, but by doing this you get to let the New Year in the way you want. And who knows that someone at your side who holds your hand while the bells toll 12 times, may turn out to be that special someone who is just as lonely as you, and the answer to your prayers. Remember "May all the quaintness be forgot" then this the time for this to happen if it means bettering the way you feel.

The Light of the World

~ William Holman Hunt (1827 - 1910)

"I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in

darkness, but shall have the light of life." John 8:12

Minnie Louise Haskins (1875-1957) wrote these words as the introduction to a poem called 'The Desert' in 1908

I said to the man who stood at the Gate of the Year,

`Give me a light that I may tread safely into the unknown.'

And he replied,

`Go out into the darkness, and put your hand into the Hand of God. That shall be to you better than light, and safer than a known way.'

Everyone has it in them to become a Samaritan so do not question yourself on your own ability. To touch another person's life when it really matters, either by discussing their feelings with them directly will for the sufferer, be the best antidote ever and also a rewarding time for the helper. Samaritans have 17,000 volunteers to make sure that their 202 branches are well-organized and ready give support. Why not bring that figure up to "17,001."

Samaritans will never see your problem as to big or small. If you're worried, feel upset or confused, or just want to talk to someone, call.UK dial 08457 90 90 90. Republic of Ireland dial 1850 60 90 90 - If you call the national number, 08457 90 90 90, calls from BT residential lines will be charged at up to 2 pence per minute. A call set-up fee of 7 pence applies to calls from residential lines. Calls cost 6 cents per minute from Eircom landlines. Mobile and other providers' charges may vary. (Prices correct October 2008). If a number is busy do not hang up as your the call will be routed to another branch. Textphones (for the hard of hearing): in the UK dial 08457 90 91 92. In Ireland dial 1850 60 90 91.

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