Divorced? - After All What Does It Mean? Legally & Practically?

A No Fault Divorce

It takes two people to make a marriage work. A divorce takes place legally when married people decide that they cannot live together anymore and wish to end their union. This is the hardest decision a couple can make.

A No Fault Divorce is when the court does not ask any questions regarding the problems in their marriage. Previously, reasons had to be declared which had to include adultery and abuse. This brought out a lot of
dirty linen in court and deprived a couple of their privacy.

Since the laws have now changed with a changing world, a party can let the court know that there are irreconcilable differences in the marriage and the Judge will not go into any details, and allow the divorce to
proceed.

Ugly Divorces

There are many cases where the parties involved are hurt and therefore vengeful. This can make for an ugly divorce, with both parties bringing out their emotions and it can be very disheartening. And again, if one
party decides that they do not want to go in for a divorce, and the other one wants it desperately, this can lead to a lot of heartache and agony, just because the parties are not mature enough to handle it right.

There are courts that will advise the couple to go in for counselling. This is done when they feel that the couple could come together and bury their differences. This, of course, can only happen if either or both parties feel that their differences can be settled, and only then can they opt for counselling.

Many people do not take the time to work at their marriage. They are ready to throw in the sponge at the slightest disagreement. There are always ups and downs in every marriage, and it requires a level of maturity and willingness to recognize one's shortcomings and deal with them effectively. The main idea is to keep the marriage and not run away. People do not think too far ahead - they feel that by getting out of a marriage, they may be able to do better for themselves when they are free. Sometimes, there are issues that cannot be resolved, either because one of the parties is not willing to do so, or because it has been left too late and allowed to fester, so there is no hope of picking up the pieces and attempting a reconciliation, since the hurts and resentments are too deep.

The best way is to see that both parties are able to get on with their lives, and happiness for each individual is the key factor - only then can they move forward and re-start their lives. A divorce is never easy, and it requires a strong and mature approach to be able to get through it.