Help With Marriage Breakups

You say It's Over! But Is It? A marriage breakup is very serious business. How many times have you said it? Did you really mean it? Some times we are so quick to say these words because we are hurt. Someone in some way has slighted us in a very bad way. So these words give us some type of an instant release but no real gratification comes from it. A marriage breakup can be devastating to the entire family and not just the 2 main parties.

Marriage breakups and divorces comes way too easy in this country. Statistics show that divorces are much too common in U.S.A.. For whatever reason it is chosen as a get back at solution time and time again. A marriage should be concidered sacred at all times because it is sacred. We vow to be there for each other in easy times and rough ones forever, remember for better or worse. That's a very interesting point isn't it? At the time of getting married we, without any reluctance accept these promises to each other, yet at the first sign, when the going gets tough, of a real test of these words we want to bail out.

First of all no one ever said that marriage was going to be easy and if they ever did then they were kidding themselves. Marriage breakups are nothing short of (the easy way out). In any sense you are just running from yourself when you take this easy way out. it will always be the same no matter who you are with ,most times. A Marriage is a commitment beyween 2 people, A covenant if you will, A solemn promise to up hold those all important vows. A marriage is a permanent bond bound by god not by man. Are you familiar with the words of the bible that says, what god puts together let no man break apart.

Well that says it all doesn't it? Most people go into a marriage with the wrong attitude, for the wrong reasons, and without taking into concideration all other parties that may be involved, children especially. A commitment of this magnitude deserves some very careful concideration before hand. Some people understand the value of these commitments but unfortunately most don't. As stated above marriage is truly Serious Business. A permanent union that means that  under no circumstances should this bond ever be broken no matter what happens, EVER!

A marriage breakup should never be concidered even as a last resort. Boy, that is really heavy isn't it. Here is a rude awakening for you. I personally know someone close to me who has been married at least 7 times and divorced too. And not only that but this party married at least 3 of the very parties that they divorced from again, twice just to divorce again. To me that's a mockery. You might say What's the big deal? Are you kidding me?

If one can't look at marriage as sacred, a permanent bond, a truly special gift from god that should never be broken ever, then you really should take a good strong look at the very reason you are marrying in the first place. You vowed to be with this person til death do you part, remember? Simply put you aren't supposed to have a choice in the matter, it's just not up to you to say, at least that is what was in the design of it. And these aren't my opinions I simply agree with the design. Now I know that this is controversial and I can respect that.

I didn't mean and don't intend to offend anyone intentionally I just think that we have gotten away from ethical values. Important values that truly defines us as gods creation, incidentally someone who expects us to uphold these values, no matter how old creation is or gets to be. It's IMPORTANT to you, and your children and their children and so on.

We can truly expect them to follow our leads yes even how we treat our marriages from generation to generation. Treating marriage like it's choosing a new car, or a new dress is going to reflect in all the generations to follow. We (man) have made marriage and marriage breakups his business, meddling in something that we should have always treated as off limits, why? Because it is a subject that is beyond his capacity to understand just how important and precious it truly is. The divorce rate is unacceptably out of control.
People the world over, before they indulge in the selfish act of marriage breakups and eventually divorce, should sit down and redefine just what it was that brought them together in the first place, something that should have been done before the marriage or relationship for that matter ever took place.

In doing so ask yourself what drew you to each other? What was the primary reason for the marriage? What was the secondary reason? And so on. List and review, compare the list with a current list. If something has gone, then work on finding it, whatever it takes. No matter what, marriage breakups that lead to divorce shouldn't be concidered unless of course things are volatile. Thats the only exception especially where children are concerned. That simply means to me that the marriage was most probably built for the wrong reasons in the very beginning, or something may have been there that either was over looked or ignored.