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FULFILLING YOUR CAREER GOALS WILL GUARANTEE PERPETUAL BLISS.

ob asked me, “Who are you?” I repeated the question “Who am I?” as much to myself as to him. He said yes that’s precisely what I asked. After a moment’s deliberation I replied “I’m a journalist.”

Bob Urichuck, the author of ‘Online for Life: The 12 Disciplines for living your dreams’ and ‘Up your Bottom Line’ replied, but your answer is the description of your ‘role’ not your ‘identity.’ He continued, but majority of the people give similar responses to this question, which means that all or at least most of us identify ourselves in the roles we play. Incidentally, we also rate ourselves on the same criteria- we consider ourselves a success or failure depending on how we are faring in our roles. If we are doing well in our jobs, we feel we are successful and as result we are happier.

So, achieving our career objectives and being successful in our jobs have much more implications than we care to acknowledge. Bob says, “work is the stepping stone to go wherever you wish to go in your life, it’s the step to achieve all your dreams.” If you were to categorise all your dreams under different groups such as family, personal, travel, business etc. you’ll realise all of these dreams can be made a reality if you have managed to achieve your career ambition. You’ll find that your success in your business or your jobs will trickle down to all other spheres of your life.

HOW TO ACHIEVE YOUR CAREER GOAL

KNOWING YOURSELF

Realising your career goals starts with understanding your true self. Although we identify ourselves in our career roles, we can forge ahead on the career pedestal only if we carve out an identity exclusive of our role. Our identity is the person who we are minus our role- our compassions, our passions, and our vileness all that which adds to our personality.

However, as adults you should be able to look inside yourselves and weed out the negative influences and baggage that sets limitations for yourselves. You should take time to know ourselves and live life “inside out.” By that we mean you should be able to control your thoughts, be self motivating and encouraging. But most often we do just the opposite, we live “outside in” letting the society dictate the norms for us, to decide for us even our dreams and desires.

But, if you build a positive identity, with positive qualities outweighing negatives then a slump in our roles will not lead us to lose our self esteem and happiness. So it’s essential that you have the right perspective of yourselves, the right attitudes and belief system that result in a positive identity.

KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT

You’ll be able to identify your goal based on your priorities. Should monetary considerations outweigh job title and power? These are questions you should address yourselves to recognise your goals. You should also identify your abilities, aptitudes, interests, skills, strengths and weaknesses by taking profiling tests, taking time to think for yourself about what motivates you, what you enjoy doing and identifying your aptitude for doing the same by taking aptitude tests. Self-knowledge will allow you to take the first step to drive your career in the right direction.

After you’ve realised what is that you want in life and out of your jobs, it’s time you take a step further, plan your career graph, set time stimulations to get there. It’s time to put the plan into action!

SELF CONFIDENCE AND DISCIPLINE

“Self confidence combined with self respect and self esteem adds to your self worth which in turn adds up to your net worth as individual directly reflecting on your performance,” says Bob. It’s therefore essential that you build your self confidence and self worth. And this begins with accepting ‘self.’ As individuals you should know your limitations, it’s easier to try and take control of things that’s within your control such as your attitudes, self talk, the way we react to people and our thoughts.

? Develop the right attitude: This can be done by focusing on your strengths rather than your weakness, by being more pro-active than reactive. Also you should ingrain into self the “attitude of gratitude.” You should get into the habit of appreciating yourself and others around you. If you’re the employer you should recognise the appropriate behaviours and actions than pointing out the inappropriate ones. “Remember recognition leads to repetition!”

An interesting thing you should keep in mind here is that the numerical value of the word ‘attitude’ translates to 100 (a=1 + 3* t=20 + i=9 + u=21 + d=4 + e=5) meaning if you got the right attitude 100 percent of your task has been achieved.

? Self talk: Find and develop your own set of affirmations that you can use and repeat to yourself particularly when you’re feeling low. Repeating positive phrases, getting into the habit of seemingly silly behaviours like standing infront of the mirror and telling yourselves ‘that was a great job’ or patting your shoulders will go a long way in building your self confidence.

? Control over thoughts and actions: If at anytime you find a negative thought creeping in to your mind, and let’s face it, it will happen. Deliberately and consciously let go of that such thoughts and focus on brighter more positive things. It’ll make things easier for you if you have a positive environment surrounding you. Hanging out with perpetually pessimistic people, and grimy circumstances will make things tougher for you, so avoid such people and situations.

If you’re serious about accomplishing your set goals then disciplining yourself will assure your success. Discipline is the commitment to do even those things that you don’t want to do or are reluctant to do. The reasons maybe many from laziness to sheer exhaustion but having the will and determination to accomplish all that you have set out to do is what will set you apart at your work place and in your lives. “Pledge yourself to your work and take on the complete responsibility to make it happen,” says Bob. Delete phrase like “I hope” from your dictionary and be confident that when you take on a responsibility that it’s as good as it’s done.

AVOID PROCRASTINATION

Bob cautions “Avoid procrastination.” The process of habitually putting things off is procrastination. It will cause you to miss deadlines, leading to lost opportunities and income, lower productivity and wasted time. On most occasions as much as we dislike a particular task it’s best to first tackle your most unpleasant and difficult tasks so that you for one you can relax that it’s out of the way and second you’ll be able to complete your other tasks more quickly and precisely. “A do-it-now attitude will make you a self starter, a person who can recognize a need and take appropriate action without waiting to be told to.” Don’t expect to find time to achieve your goals instead make the time.

However, dedicate your most productive time to yourself it’ll keep you motivated and avoid burn out. With an action oriented, do-it-now attitude you get more out of your day and when inculcated as a habit, this nature can translate days into a successful lifetime.

You can start working towards achieving that ‘life dream’ by monitoring and measure your daily progress. Are you doing what you set out to do? Are you rewarding yourself? Keeping tab of your progress will motivate you to keep going. The monthly monitor chart provided below is great way to keep your behaviour and activity under check. Look first at ‘Activities.’Across the top of chart is the list of daily activities. Check your daily progress for each activity for each goal. Place a check mark next to each activity that you carried out on a daily basis. (inset table)

All said, now you know what are some of the most important qualities of getting your life on the fast track to success- knowing yourself, knowing what you want out of life, positive attitude, self appreciation and recognition, discipline and action oriented nature. But, ultimately all boils down to one simple factor for success and this, the most important is DESIRE. You can get where you want but only if you wish for it. Your desire will be your motivator. It’s in wanting to know yourself and what you want for yourself and your family that will inspire you to take the recommended steps for self discovery and self training. Bob rightly put it “no desire no results.” So just remember nothing is as difficult as it seems, if you have the desire to make a change for good you’ll search for ways and means to get there. And we at the AM believe that everyone desires for the best out of life and deserve it too. So, go on just tell yourself ‘am going to do all that I have to reach my goal.”

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“If you were to categorise all your dreams under different groups such as family, personal, travel, business etc. you’ll realise all of these dreams can be made a reality if you have managed to achieve your career ambition. You’ll find that your success in your business or your jobs will trickle down to all other spheres of your life

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MONITOR AND MEASURE YOUR PROGRESS

BOB URICHUCK IN HIS BOOK ‘ONLINE FOR LIFE: THE 12 DISCIPLINES FOR LIVING YOUR DREAMS’ HAS IDENTIFIED THE FOLLOWING PRINCIPLES TO MASTER SELF-MOTIVATION AND PERSONAL LEADERSHIP.

1. KNOW YOUR RIGHTS because you have the right to your dreams, desires and expectations — to have what you want, to like yourself as you are, to change, to fail, to be imperfect, to choose, to ask, to decide how you will use your time and energy and your right to lunch — when you pay for it.

2. MAKE A DECISION to do something about your life and live the life of your dreams, or to accept life as it comes. The first step in self-motivation is to make the decisions.

3. TAKE CONTROL OF Your Life by controlling your thoughts and states of mind. Discipline yourself - do what you have to do even when you don’t want to do it, and then reward yourself.

4. KNOW YOURSELF OR your journey into the future will be uncertain. Defining your identity will keep you focused as you later set priorities, organize tasks, deal with emergencies and accomplish challenges in your personal and business lives.

5. KNOW WHAT YOU Want out of Life by listing all of your dreams, desires and expectations as if nothing was impossible.

6. GROUP, CATEGORIZE AND Prioritize your dreams into time periods. Compare your dreams with the exercises you completed in the first five disciplines.

7. IDENTIFY WHAT YOU Are Prepared To Give in exchange for your dreams and desires. Expect to make changes in your life: in the way you spend your time, effort and money, and in your relationships, habits, education and career.

8. CREATE A GOAL Logbook. Keeping in mind that a goal is an end, a result, not just a task to be performed. It describes the condition we want to achieve. Goals are an extension of your values.

9. COMMIT TO YOUR Action Plan, taking on the complete responsibility to “make it happen.”

10. BE ACTION-ORIENTED AND “Do It Now!” Don’t expect to find time to achieve your goals, make the time.

11. MONITOR AND MEASURE your Progress to stay informed on how you’re doing. It will motivate you to keep going and to make the necessary adjustments along the way.

12. BE THANKFUL. Before you can have more out of life, take inventory of your blessings.