"Some people are just luckier than others, I'm never lucky" she says as she sighs, disappointed with yet another goal she thought she wanted to achieve slips away. "It wasn't meant to be for me" he says as he watches in vain as someone else takes the prize. I'm sorry, welcome to the real world.
Some will succeed while others just sit and watch. Could it have possibly been some obscure plan of our creator that some people should receive their desires and reach their goals and enjoy life with its full potential, while others simply look on? Hardly!
It's no secret why some people succeed in life when others don't. Unfortunately too many of us are in a state of constant lethargy, or worse still, sit in sorrow of our poor unlucky selves to see why they can only envy their successor. So to make it crystal clear to all I will tell you the reason in just two short words, "They focus". There is no magic spell here, no hocus pocus, no abracadabra, people who reach their goal focus. There is no predetermined life map here, no fabled destiny path, people who win focus.
To put things into perspective here let's just call "focus" the word of the day and take a moment to consider the meaning of "focus":
. The concentration of attention and energy towards something.
. Maximum clarity on an object or goal
. Direct, uninterrupted view of a central or fixed reference point.
Now let's examine what it means to focus:
. To visualize and project concentration and energy
. To know and understand the objective completely
. To follow just one direct path onward.
Clearly people who succeed and people who get the things they want in life have intently taken the direction and followed the steps to their desires. People who win have known what they want and have simply focused to achieve the mark.
While most of us think that we focus, not so many of us actually really focus, they just pint and shoot. The achievers have taken the time to adjust the lens and set their sights directly at their desire for perfect illumination and clarity.
There are many paths in our lives destiny and those that succeed simply know the path they wish to follow and continue on the way, never wavering into terrains that don't lead to their chosen ends. Although winners are grinners, you are sure to find them along the way enjoying their moments and even humming to themselves like there's no care in the world. Why would they stress? Stress is what happens when focus is lost, or never really was.
Focus Training:
Yes, focus can be trained. Runners can train, swimmers can train, and achievers can train. You have perhaps already begun your training in focus by reading this. Not to mention just like physical athletes various courses and training programs are available to you. Naturally these courses or programs are not compulsory in learning to focus. Simply making the conscious decision to control and sharpen your focus ability is an excellent first step in the right direction.
Carefully constructed focus training courses and programs work in just the same way with the same expected outcomes of any other specific training routine. A naturally gifted writer may take creative writing classes to enrich their already present talents. Without these classes they will still be the naturally gifted writer they always were. World class swimmers seek the aid of swimming instructors. They might not need to learn to swim, but there is no denying the influence the right coach has on their swimming career. You can concentrate on improving your own focus ability without hurting your cause one little bit, or you can seek the service of a coach to share the experience with.
There are times in our life's journey that we do encounter obstacles in our way. There are times we even loose our way a little. This is a part of the whole human experience. The difference between the achievers and the "wanna bes" is how we accept these challenges and what direction we take thereafter.
We may need a boost up over the fence, or we may need to work at pulling it down. They are really the only choices an achiever will make. Crying about it and loosing focus on the goal in some blind grief isn't even an option. Getting up, and shaking ourselves off and continuing in the journey ahead is regaining focus on the prize.
There are times when the prize may seem out of our reach. It is these times our focus isn't quite clear enough. Forgetting what we have learned about focus is completely out of the question. The trick here is to bring your focus in a little closer and work away at it bit by bit. Focus on this step, then focus on the next, but importantly visualize the goal and direct your energy toward achieving this end.
Our destiny has not been set in stone; we create this along the way. Focusing on our desires is the key to achieving our goals.
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