Fibromyalgia - The Remedy!

I am rather bold to suggest that there is a total remedy to this hopeless disease! But, I think there is!  It is NOT a pill!  There is no magic bullet!

There are even so-called reputable vitamin companies offering products to "treat" this problem.  See: http://www.chelationtherapyonline.com/anatomy/p4.htm for one of the most bold -- they use "fibromyalgia" as the hook to get you in the door, and just sell everything under the sun.  Many of these items may, in fact, be helpful, but if those who offer help do NOT recognize the "relationship connection" described below, then their failure rate will be high -- pushing the victims back into the clutches of psychiatric drugs.

After all, psychiatric drugs ALWAYS work -- because they are pushing you toward a state of insensibility and vegetable.  That is not hard to do.   But, there is a logical plan you can follow. This plan starts with data that might be very new to you -- the truth of the matter is that all diseases and illnesses, and every type of health problem has some sort of "relationship" problem that comes first.

There is a relationship that causes you to be vulnerable to the invading bacteria. There is a relationship that triggers the health problem -- whether or not you were previously vulnerable. There is a relationship that makes the health problem stay with you despite usual and good treatments.  In other words, there are "relationship reasons" why some vitamin or treatment may not work for you while it works for many others. This is a universal truth about health -- you have the explanation on these "relationships" here!

What is a "relationship problem?" First, it is a connection between YOU and another person who is generally very close to you.  It could be with a group of others, but usually it is ONE person.  This person is NOT a stranger.  Most often it is a member of your family -- your spouse, your parent, your child.  It could be someone else, but whoever it is, this person is one who you know quite well and who you probably see on a regular basis.

He is not a stranger!  You have some agreements with this person -- based on a handshake, or formal contract, but most often unwritten and understood. You just don't spit on the living room floor of his house -- it is understood.

There are AGREEMENTS between you and this person -- perhaps unspoken, but at some time you shared a common moral code on something that was important to both of you. You have a relationship with this person.  That relationship now has something "wrong" with it, and that "wrongness" is actually the initial cause of your health problem.  The wrongness means that there is less communication between you, or that the communication is now strained.

In other words, if you DID NOT have this relationship (and had no other "wrong relationships") you would stay pretty healthy, would not fall prey to any wandering bacteria, and when you did get the sniffles, you would respond quickly to the usual treatments.

What is wrong about this relationship? The other person is, first of all, doing something that violates YOUR sense of right and wrong.  It is a matter of "morals."

Your granddaughter is away in college.  At first you saw her every weekend. She is the darling of your eye!  You and she were very close.  Gradually you realize that college is "changing her!"  Finally you wake one morning realizing that you cannot hide this change from yourself any longer -- your granddaughter is on drugs and having sex with many different men!

This is a "triggering" realization.  If you didn't know anything about it, it probably would not affect you.  But, you begin to suspect. She doesn't visit as often as she had previously. She casually mentions some of this new behavior (testing your acceptance), notes your raised eyebrow, and says no more about it.  She makes little critical remarks about your home, and eventually even about you!  She'll start these critical remarks when talking with others -- she may never tell you these things to your face.  She is making those critical remarks because she really wants to justify not seeing you -- for fear that you will discover more of what she is doing.  She knows it is wrong, and she doesn't want you to know.  She may have even convinced herself that her behavior is NOT wrong, but is OK!  But, even so she knows that YOU would disapprove.  You find out, just a suspicion of something.  You might even ask her!  That causes more withdrawal on her part, and YOU GET SICK!

You get sick because SHE is violating your moral code!  It is NOT your violation of any code, but hers.  You are likely, first, to just become unhappy, but that turns into a health problem.

Perhaps you have an abusive spouse!   That will sure make you ill!  You'll be unhappy first, perhaps depressed and get the psychiatric drug.  But, it may move forward into a very real disease or health problem.

Cancer, in fact, is very often an indication that there is a terribly wrong relationship between a husband and wife!  Usually the type of wrong relationship is that one of them (or both) is cheating on the other!  Such a sexual transgression in marriage cannot be kept secret easily.  It leads to the one being cheated on getting sick.  Often it would be "depression" (naturally) and the quick remedy is a psychiatric drug.

The obviously correct remedy is to handle the cheating spouse or disengage from him or her.  The disengagement is often not easy, often not even possible, so you go on living with a terrible relationship and you develop one or more debilitating health problems.  Sexual transgressions in a marriage often lead, eventually, to cancer in one or both.

It may take several years for the disease to manifest -- after the wrong behavior has been noticed. YOUR health problem is caused, initially, by a transgression of a moral code by another person! Here you have the cause of the vulnerability you have toward any wandering bacteria, or a small bite of bad food!

If you didn't have any "wrong relationship" problem, that wandering bug would be easily handled by your immune system, or that bite of bad food would just not cause any problem. This "wrong relationship" makes you vulnerable.  You could go on for a long time, years, this way, without getting really sick -- if you are a very strong person and do good things for your health.

But, you are vulnerable!  You are walking around at risk!  The immune system may be one of the first things that "goes bad” and you wouldn't even notice this.  You only notice when you "catch that bug."  Even if you KNOW that your immune system is in trouble, fixing it with some immune system booster won't work very well if you haven't handled, first, the "wrong relationship."

Perhaps you suspect that your husband is cheating!  You are vulnerable!  Then you notice lipstick on his cheek!  That might be just enough to move you from being vulnerable to being sick. This is a triggering incident!

Then this "sickness" may be treatable by some standard method -- but YOU don't respond to the standard treatment -- because this moral transgression is continuing and it is THAT moral transgression which makes the treatment not work, or to work slowly.

The "wrong relationship" is vital to understand -- it is universal in application to the understanding of health problems. Happy families are healthy families.  If you see a sick baby, you know the parents are fighting!  They are breaking society's moral code that you should raise children in a loving and happy home!

I have found this to be SO true, and so vital, that I have an entire web site devoted to helping people spot the type of behavior which the "other person" is engaging in -- the behavior that makes YOU sick.  Visit www.happinessonline.org and see what that is all about.