Looking For More Sexual Pleasure in Your Relationship? This Is How It Can Happen..

So, you want more sexual pleasure in your relationship? Recently I wrote an article about sexual problems and asked what some of the issues are that can arise for couples, with regard to their sex lives.

To remind you, or if you?ve not seen it, I raised a few simple questions that couples want answers to; first, do you feel you really do have sexual problems in your marriage? Second, do you find you want to make love more (or less) often than your partner does? Finally, do you feel that your partner doesn't work hard enough to give you sexual satisfaction?



I then explained that you're not on your own if you're experiencing some issues that give you cause for concern; so many couples go through really tough times with regard to their sex lives, but you can get over those tough times and they are surmountable. There are so many positive things you can do to resolve your sexual issues. To help get you both back on track to a healthy and satisfying sex life with your partner, let's look at a few simple guidelines to help you get the sexual pleasure you (rightfully!) want.



Number one. Ladies; let's kill off a very misleading notion. There is this assumption that men do know all there is to know about making love and how to satisfy a woman. It's a false notion and it really isn't true that men know absolutely 'everything', even about you so don't assume this is so. No matter how long you?ve been together there will be things he won?t find out... unless you are willing to be open and explain to him all about them.



The plains facts are simple; there are no two women who are totally the same, to there really is no way your partner can just sense what you feel, or what you enjoy when you're in bed together (or somewhere else!), if you don't make the effort to tell him. Your first job is to communicate with him and make sure he knows what you actually do enjoy. The same goes for the man; make sure that you talk to your partner and find out what she really likes and enjoys, what really turns her on, and what she needs to give her a really stimulating set of pleasures. Always bear in mind that if she isn't turned on by sex currently it could be for a lot of reasons. Overwork is often a sex drive killer, or maybe she?s worrying about other family matters? the list is almost endless. Always, always, give support! Whatever you do don't chastise her. The same goes for you ladies; if he isn?t in the mood, look at the underlying causes that can be making him not want to have sex. Work on those issues and it could provide you with the answer to what is going wrong.



Number two; begin by communicating with your partner about as many of things that are concerning you as you can. You can open up to each other by talking openly and honestly about how you feel. Sometimes discussing private things can be uncomfortable, perhaps even embarrassing, but you need to know what each other is thinking, and feeling. So, try to put the embarrassment to one side and communicate with each other.



Number three. So often it is the view that the man should be the one to initiate the lovemaking. Take my advice and throw that ridiculous theory out with the garbage! The plain fact is that a lot of men really love it when their woman takes control and initiates the sex. So, all you ladies, don't just get into the habit of lying there whilst your man does all the approach work. Learn to be responsive and take control when you want to. Perhaps you should encourage him to lay back while you get thing moving in the right direction. Not taking the initiative often leads to a really boring time, and it?s this attitude that will cause your sex life to go on a rapidly downward spiral.



Number four. Never be afraid to let your partner know what you would like him, or her, to do by showing them. Sometimes verbally explaining what you would like isn't enough. In fact it?s often much easier when making love for you to guide each other?s hands to places you like to be touched. Try whispering sexy things into each other's ear about what you want your partner to do because it really is very sensuous. When your partner does something you find pleasurable and exciting, make sure you let him, or her, know. How? Simply by telling your partner that you like what they?re doing to you! And that you want plenty more of it!



The bottom line to getting a bigger share of sexual pleasure in your marriage is COMMUNICATION. If you can't talk to each other freely, then you need some help. Making the effort to talk to each other will pay dividends and, ultimately, bring you closer together. Sexual pleasure will then follow, naturally.