Cheating Spouse Signs: Building The Wall

Two people that have been in a relationship for sometime can read each other pretty well. You know when to get closer and when to give your significant other plenty of space. There are moments where it feels like you can read each other's mind. Like the time you attended a social function.

Something happened and while the two of you were on the opposite sides of the room, you immediately made eye contact and started having a wordless conversation.  When you got home and compared notes, you realized you were on the same wavelength. You both have got it like that.

But at this point in time you feel like your radar is broken. It's not that you do not still feel that strong connection to your spouse but you don't seem to be getting the same signals from them like you used to. Understandably it has got you stumped.  It's almost like when you were not looking; your significant other built a wall between the two of you. The question is why? The answer maybe they are having an affair. 

Besides some of the obvious clues of marriage infidelity such as strange phone calls and equally strange charges on your credit card statements, there is also the not so obvious like the growing distance between you and your significant other.

It's not that they don't continue with the daily household responsibilities or that they have stopped being intimate with you. But now you detect thru their verbal and body language that interaction between the two of you is getting more strained.  

This happens quite frequently in an extramarital affair. While you spouse may be doing everything possible to maintain normalcy, the third party is starting to exert more emotional influence. Yes humans are capable of multitasking but being in a marriage and carrying on an affair is a tough job that somewhere along the way usually breaks down completely.

You have tried to find out what the problem is with your spouse. They deny there is a problem. You hope more than anything that they are just going thru a phase (by themselves) where they just need to work some things out. But if you sense that the distance between the two of you is becoming more real than make it your business to find out exactly what is going on behind that wall.