Infidelity. Cheating. Morals.. Do they exist?

I went out this weekend for a much needed night out with the girls. Overall, I had an awesome time,but something happened that made me open my eyes to what our society is really coming to.

Let me explain: My girlfriends and I were standing around and a guy came up and started talking to us. We both told him straight out we were happily married, and it was nice to meet him. We turned ourselves away from him, but he cut back in and proceed to talk to us. His response to us informing him that we were married was as follows: " Really, I am engaged to be married?" I said congratulations that's awesome! He said "Well not really, it is one of those situations where she got pregnant and now I am stuck" I said What are you serious? He said "Yea, I am not really happy about it but yea I had to ask her to marry me, so its okay if we talk because we are both involved, I am okay with it if you are"..The tone in his voice made me disgusted. At that point I could tell he was really serious. I was shocked, this guy whom I had know for all of about two seconds was telling me this information. I told him that I did not want to hear anymore and walked away. I know there was some other bits of information he told us, but I was so shocked that he was even saying any of it I do not recall everything that he told us.

I went home that night and began thinking about what had happened, and how sorry I felt for the woman he had impregnated. I then began to think about all the other times I have been hit on by man. Why was I so shocked by what that guy said to me? There has been plenty of other times that men that I knew were married or in a serious relationship had come onto me. But really, what was this guy thinking. Essentially, his pick up line explained to us how crappy of a person he was.

Do people even have morals anymore? I think that there is NEVER any explanation,excuse,or reasoning behind why someone cheats, especially if they are married. I know that some of you may argue with me about this. However, if you can not be true to the person that you love, the one person that means the world to you, the one that you would give your life for; then what kind of partner/person are you? Obviously, you do not respect your partner, or better yet yourself!  Why did you even get married or make a commitment in the first place?

If you can not be faithful to your partner then divorce them! Obviously, there is a reason that you are cheating, or thinking about it. Now, I am not implying that everyone should just get a divorce, but if you really aren't happy then you should do something about. Why put your partner through all of the mess that comes along with infidelity?

I think it is sad that marriage and commitment really does not mean that much any more. It also surprises me how blatantly open people are about it now. I understand that infidelity has occurred since the beginning of time, but at least back then it was a little more discreet. 

I think that everyone, both men and women, should really stop and think about what will make them happy. But please remember the golden rule that applies to everyday life as well ( my dad always told this to my sisters and I while growing up). Do and say whatever you want , AS LONG AS it doesn't violate the rights of others. This may be interpreted in many different ways, but you get the idea.

I want to set something straight before I end this article. I usually do not judge people, as I do not like to judged. I would also like to add that what you do with your life is your business. I am not implying that men cheat more than women, because I know this is not the case. To sum it up, I really do not care what you do with your life as long as it doesn't negatively affect mine. Meaning if you are a married man and you some how come across me, don't even waste your time. The only thing that you will get from it is me walking away, and you standing there feeling stupid!

All of this may seem contradicting, but I would just like to see people respect others as wells as themselves more.