WHAT TO DO WITH AN INFIDELITY PARTNER

First of all how do people see infidelity in the society, let us ask you a question.  If you were in business with a partner, and you discovered your partner was stealing money from the company, would you ever trust him/her again?  That is what infidelity is like…being in business with an embezzler.

In everything that exist between two people the must be trust, without that then such a thing can’t result to something profitable regardless of what it is. But let’s face partnership in marriage, the famous saying once a thief always a thief, remains the same in this topic, once a cheat always will be a cheat, marriage, relationship is an agreement between two people and as such one party is not allowed to go contrary to without the approval of the other. In an ordinary relationship that exist between two people, and one person happens to cheat on the other, the hurt and heart break won’t be that much, in fact the victim being cheated on, will see it as an open eye, away for him/her to realize the kind of person they are dating, or were involved with. But in the case of marriage, the consequences are always of greater damage, because it can lead to lots of things, separations, hurt, and lots of family crises. And this is always because the partners involve fail to realize that infidelity attacks the essence of their desires and would deprive them of what is rightfully theirs. You can’t chance an infidelity partner that is one thing you must always know, because once they know that you know, it’s like a blind folding material has just been taken off their eyes and they can see their sins, if you have ever been caught doing something wrong, caught red handed I mean, that sudden feeling of quilt is what am talking about, you can do and say anything to get yourself out of that situation but that doesn’t mean if faced with the same situation you won’t do it again, only that next time the person will be more careful, marriage is an agreement and a commitment as such there will always be challenges and temptations, that’s why the saying for better and worse is always applied.

A partner that does not respect the feeling of the other does not deserve such a person, Forbidden sex is an addiction that can and usually does have devastating consequences to an individual and a family. Once your partner has cheated on you, he/she will always cheat on you that’s one thing you have to know, its either you end the relationship, if you feel you can not continue or bear getting hurt, because you will definitely be hurt over and over again, but if you feel you can bear the pain, faith always pays better but the consequences of infidelity is always more than the cause, you have to realize that whatever it is that made him/her start thinking of cheating on you will always be there, and once he/she start feeling the pleasure of freedom in a marriage, such a marriage is just on its way to disaster .

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE CHEATED ON

There are two things to do when you are cheated on.

1) End the relationship

2) Keep faith and continue

If you realize that your partner is cheating, I would advice you end such a relationship if there are no solid commitment made, but in case of marriage, I would advice, you try talking with the person, because that you have found out, is the one you know, talk less of those you do not know about. If after many times of talking to him/her you still see the symptoms of that infidelity in that partner, because he/she will always try to be more careful next time, it is sure that the feeling for you is still there, but his/her pleasure lies in another’s arms, you must know that the feeling of infidelity in a marriage is like, a person that was only allowed to watch just one television channel, and suddenly he/she sees a secret ways they can be going to watch other television stations, and they seem to be watching lots of interesting things on those stations, because in that world there are no restrictions, they can change to any stations they feel is or will be interesting to them, the assurance is there that they will always go back there, because they feel you as a single channel is boring and they are being deprive of their freedom, that’s the feeling infidelity brings to them, and that’s why some times they can get really violent on you, if you attempt to talk to them, and they will always be seeing you as an obstacle in their part.

CONSEQUENCES OF INFIDELITY IN A MARRIAGE

Having an extramarital affair can have some hefty consequences in your relationship.  Here are a few of the consequences of infidelity:

Adultery shatters trust, intimacy, and self-esteem.

It breaks up families

Ruins careers

Infidelity leaves a trail of pain and destruction in its path.

Even when affairs are never exposed, emotional costs are involved. Mates deprive their spouses of energy and intimacy that should go into the marriage.

Infidelity makes them to deceive their marriage partners and become dishonest about their feelings and actions towards them, infidelity is not in the sex, necessarily, but in the secrecy. It isn't whom you lie with. It's whom you lie to. Infidelity ruins lives.

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