Engagement Ring Enthusiasm

When someone announces that they got engaged, don’t most people, especially ones you know, excitedly congratulate you and ask to see your ring?  Did engagement rings lose their fascination?  I think it must have because that’s what happened to me.  At least, I think maybe it happened to me because when I talk to people about it, they seem to think differently.  Anyway, I recently got engaged – yay, I’m so happy!  When I made the announcement to my close friends, they seemed happy for me too, maybe not overly excited, but happy.  I usually thought at this point, people would grab my left hand to see my ring, but no one really did.  No one really asked to even see my ring.  Well, I’m exaggerating.  A couple of them did as well as my immediate family, but not even some of my close cousins asked.  I was a little shocked, maybe even a little hurt.  I wanted to show off my ring, not because I’m a showy person, but because I guess that is what I expected.  Plus, my fiancé spent a lot of time in choosing my ring after looking at so many diamond engagement rings, and I know he’s proud that he was able to even pick a ring on his own.  Hmmm, I wonder where I even got this notion of how people, women especially, typically act during engagement announcements.  I blame the movies and TV.  I also think and observe that other people generally ask to see the ring just because we’re all curious, and I know that I excitedly ask to see my girlfriends’ engagement rings.  So why did I get a different reaction? 

            I hope that I don’t seem whiny or anything like that.  I guess the lack of reaction seems like people aren’t that excited about my future wedding or really happy for me.  But is that really the case, or is it all in my head?  I do feel that the economic situation changed people’s emotions, made them seem more cautious and subdued and less celebratory, so maybe this occasion affected their reactions.  Or maybe they were too busy at the time to ask to see my ring or had other things on their minds that they need to take care of.  Or maybe it’s because it gets tiring with so many other people getting married – I’m one of the last ones in my circle of friends and co-workers to be married.  I don’t know.

            I asked my sister what could be the case.  She said to not think about this any more because I have more important things to do in my life, such as my job, fiancé, and, most of all, my wedding.  My sister said that I have a lot of work ahead of me in terms of wedding planning, and I need to start now.  I’m getting married in eleven months, and I didn’t start yet.  And she’s right.  I have to stop worrying about other people’s reactions to my ring.  Who knows what could be the reason.  I’m just happy that I have a great fiancé who decided that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.