Men and Wedding Plans

Being a man I had always imagined that if and when I got engaged to be married I would have little to worry about in the way of wedding plans and things of that nature.   Perhaps I was being a bit chauvinistic in my assumption that brides took care of and addressed all plans and problems surrounding the wedding.  In truth all I ever wanted at my wedding was an open bar and some good rock n roll.  I cared very little about anything beyond those two must haves.

Well my fantasies of the perfect “man gathering” as my wife calls it where shattered post haste as plans for the wedding took off at a hurried pace and I was swept up in the pandemonium that is planning for such an event.  My then fiancée expressed great interest in having me participate along with her in the planning of our day of joy.  She didn’t expect me to pick a DJ, band, and brand of liquor to serve and then quietly sit back and watch her finalize the rest the plans.  She conveyed with great emotion that she had hoped that I would be with her to meet with florists, DJ’s, photographers, etc.  As a man I had no opposition to this however I wanted to avoid this type of thing for fear of being stricken with boredom.

As the fates would have it, I agreed and gave our wedding my full attention and partook in all aspects of planning our wedding.  Ironically meeting with all the different vendors and even wedding officiants was anything but boring.  These people treat weddings as though they are creating fine, priceless pieces of art and I was amused at just how serious they took each and every wedding they provided services to.  This helped to make the experience much more enjoyable than I had envisioned it to be.

There was one activity that was less than thrilling for both my wife and me and that was looking at Mens Wedding bands and trying to find one that I would actually consider wearing.  Prior to getting engaged I had never given much thought to men’s jewelry and though I had accepted the fact that I would be wearing some sort of wedding band, I had strong reservations about wearing any rings I considered to be effeminate.  The search for a suitable wedding band was long and arduous and the tension that mounted with each visit to a jeweler was palpable.

Eventually after what we agreed to be an exhaustive and tumultuous search we began looking online for Mens Wedding bands and we were both surprised at what we found.  Men’s rings made from platinum, titanium and tungsten where littered all over each website.  It appeared to us that these sites were really pushing these types of rings and after reading multiple reviews on such topics we found out why.  Luckily for me I turned out to be but one of many men who despised the traditional gold, silver, and diamond men’s rings.  Not only do many men feel those rings are a misrepresentation of their masculinity, but they also feel these rings lack any style.  When our online expedition for the perfect ring concluded I ended up with a multicolored Tungsten ring with fancy inlets.  It is both reflective of my inner man and oozes class and style.

Once our quest for a ring was finished we wrapped up a few small loose ends and then waited out the remaining six month between that and our wedding on the couch watching our favorite movies and television shows.  Any men who are close to proposing or accepting a proposal should prepare themselves for a long but enjoyable planning process.  Don’t be afraid to take part in the planning of your wedding.   It can only serve to make the event great.