5 Tips on How to Increase Chemistry in Your Marriage

Do you think chemistry in a marriage is something that "happens just naturally"? I am sorry to be a wet blanket and disappoint you. The truth is chemistry cannot be created if it does not exist in the first place. However, if there is constant spark in the marriage, there are plenty that you and your spouse can do to fan the flames.

What do you understand by chemistry in a marriage?

It can be a little difficult to phantom if you never really have never felt any strong chemistry with another person. However, the fact that you are married to your spouse, there must have been some chemistry to begin with. In simple term, it is a sense you get when you meet someone and your gut feeling just tell you that you are meant to be together. There will be a strong physical attraction and both of you feels perfectly at ease with each other when you are together. No doubt hormones and looks do play a part, but it can also happens when both of you share the same dreams, habits, beliefs and pet peeves.

Tip 1 - Get Physical But Do Not Get Physical

This has to be handled delicately. Sometimes, just a touch on the hand or the knee can increase the chemistry in your marriage. There will be times when you can turn off your spouse by getting too physical. It is highly encouraged that you have an open conversation and discuss what physical features each of you find most attractive about each other. You then can use the information you gain to your advantage.

Tip 2 - Pump Up Your Adrenaline!

Your spouse will find you more attractive if you can make time alone with him exciting. It does not matter if the situation is pleasurable or not. Why this works is because it is human nature to associate excitement with physical attraction. Plan an outing that gets your adrenaline pumping like going to a theme park and taking the rollercoaster ride or even watching a scary movie.

Tip 3 - You Need To Develop a Rapport!

No chemistry can be built unless you have a good rapport. The rapport may not be quite prominent if you are newly married or the marriage has gone through a crisis. You need to create rapport by having a conversation on topic both of you can bond over. You need to make sure that the topic is something pleasant and low-stress. An example on a topic that does not help your spouse associate you as a fun a pleasurable person is talking about the children or the in-laws although both of you love discussing it.

Tip 4 - Be Humorous!

Laughter relaxes a person and it makes your spouse feel at ease with you. It is also fun. You do not need to be a professional comedy entertainer. Just make it neutral and clean and most importantly do not offend your spouse.

Tip 5 - Do Not Be Shy But Be Expressive

No chemistry in a relationship can happen unless your spouse know the real you. Do not keep your thoughts and opinions to yourself. Make it a point to let him know and share your feelings, opinions and thoughts on issues important to you and to him. Sometimes your spouse can fall head over heel for you again with just a single off-hand comment you make.

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