Answers to the Most Commonly Asked Questions About Threesomes

Is it normal to want a threesome?

A threesome is the world’s favorite fantasy; almost everybody at one time or another has had this fantasy. So the answer to this question is YES, you are absolutely normal wanting a threesome. Once someone asked me if she was a nymphomaniac because she wanted to be involved in a threesome with a couple I told her that the definition I once read said that a nymphomaniac is in the eyes of most people someone who has more sex than you. Sex is something to cherish and enjoy, there is nothing wrong in desiring threesomes.

Is a threesome pathological?



I wouldn’t like to get very “Freudian” here, but the truth is that having a threesome is the most shared fantasy in the world! If it would be pathological, most of us would be “sick” right? Well, this is far from the truth, acting upon your sexual fantasies and trying to pursue arranging a threesome, simply makes you a doer and not a dreamer. So stop worrying about being “crazy” and understand that what you would like to do is nothing but a wonderful experience that if carried out properly you can cherish forever and hopefully can repeat many times throughout your life.



If I engage in bisexual activity will I become a lesbian?



Don’t worry about that. Many women commence bisexual behavior after the age of thirty. At the time of their first sexual activity with another female many are already married or are in a stable relationship. Most of them start as a result of agreeing with their partners to engage in consensual swinging activities and had no history of sexual attraction to females.



Generally, most women who engage for the first time into bisexual activity admit to have a high degree of enjoyment of sexual activity with the other female, without loosing the enjoyment of heterosexual activity with their partners. These women generally are in happy and stable marriages and after getting involved in bisexual activity their relationship and sex life becomes even better. Although there is a noticeable change in their sexual fantasies, the overall preferences for their male sex partners hardly ever changes

Aren't bisexuals just going through a phase

of being confused about their sexuality?



Not necessarily - many people are absolutely certain that they are attracted to both sexes; there is no confusion. Many people are bisexual for life, which proves it’s not always just a phase. It’s natural for people who are coming to terms with a sexuality which is not society's norm to feel confused. For some people, bisexuality is a phase between homosexuality and heterosexuality (and the individual in question could be going in either direction); for others it can just be a brief experimentation. But for many people bisexuality is a lifelong, committed sexual orientation… Many people have reported that their sexual orientation has shifted over time; sexuality is dynamic, not fixed. For some people it may be a small shift, for others it may be a major change in lifestyle. This doesn’t make the points in between in any sense "wrong". Life is a continuous process, and few of us remain exactly the same over long periods of time.