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Contol Your Wife's Mind
Author: Doug Steponin  | Posted: 04-07-2008 | Comments: 0 | Views: 47 | Rating: (70)  (?) 
Yes, I've had a few whack-jobs accuse me of "mind-control" or creating a "Stepford Wife"...these accusations are ridiculous. However, they are becoming more commonplace as more and more of our friends look at us with envy. Miscommunication nearly ruined my marriage, but after reading hundreds of books, working with counselors, and focusing like a laser on psychology and human relationships, I have distilled some simple and 100% guaranteed steps to selfishly create trophy wife for myself and a knight in shining armor for my wife....we have become the most enviable couple in our community.
You CAN have a totally satisfying marriage and all the sex you want.
The hardest part is the beginning. Manipulating the female mind can't be done quickly, permanently, or even that consistently. The very idea of understanding a woman is the brunt of many jokes. If you want more lust, sex, and adoration in your marriage dear reader, have the guts to change yourself first! We will have something to talk about later if you do the following:
1. You cannot change another person. YOU have to change yourself first in order to affect any behavioral or attitudes in another person. People resist change on all fronts....including you. Start with that premise and you'll overcome your biggest hurdle.
2. Women want to talk...a lot. Let them talk. Don't try to fix, advise or dismiss their comments. The very act of listening to a woman signifies that you are at least trying to understand. Occasionally repeat the ideas they are trying to convey without trying to come up with a solution. By empathetic.
3. Discover her "love language." Each person communicates and responds to other people in their own way. Gary Chapman's book, "The 5 Love Languages" is an excellent read that will give you an insight into exactly what things you can do, say, and feel in order to double or triple your communication effectiveness and results in your relationship. I have learned and applied this information for years and I can tell you from personal experience that the word "manipulation" may sound controlling, but to the recipient of this communication, they will believe you are a genius (Or that you were struck by lighting like Mel Gibson in the hit movie, "What Women Want" where he was able to read a woman's mind) No skill is more important that sincerely understanding your mates needs.
The five primary communication styles are:
a) Acts of service. Doing things for her such as picking up without being asked, giving her a massage, taking out the trash, or even spending time with the kids may be your wife's primary language of love.
b) Receiving gifts. Some women really respond to gifts. They aren't necessarily materialistic; they simply see gifts as a symbol of your love. The gifts don't have to be expensive, but they should be personalized and from your heart.
c) Words of affirmation. Some people are more auditory than visual. If your wife responds more to what you say, than what you do, her primary love language may be the words she hears. Take a moment every day and tell her that you love her and will be there for her. Her desire for security is extremely strong. When you compliment her, be specific. Nothing screams of insincerity than general flattery. "You look AWESOME in that dress" means more than, "You look great."
d) Quality time. The more time you spend with a woman, the more her security is solidified, and the more she feels that you are dedicated to her. If your wife's primary language is spending time together and you are very busy person, you may have to schedule that time, like you would schedule a client meeting. Make it a priority and occasionally let her know that you are giving up that golf game with the staff to stay home and watch a chick flick with her....you'll definitely score!
e) Physical touch. For a large percentage of guys, this is our primary language of love. It doesn't always have to be sex, either. Holding hands, hugs, cuddling, or even physically holding her arm to make a point shows a person that you are connecting.
Keep in mind that YOUR primary love language might NOT be your wife's primary, so the trick is getting her to understand your needs-right? Remember, you cannot change her without changing yourself first. Be sure to key into her language totally FIRST! After you have established her primary love language, she will be more open to understanding and communicating with YOUR language. Get it? Give first in order to receive. If she still doesn't respond after you have established and consistently spoken to her in her language, you will have earned the rights to get a copy of Gary's book and read it together. By showing a woman you are interested in "getting in touch with her feelings" you will be in the top 1% of men who have a smokin' hot trophy wife on their arm whenever they want....you will still be a man, my friend, but you will be one who will be the envy of all your wife's friends because you will be the one who truly understands your wife!
For more tips, tricks, and advice on having a RED HOT AFFAIR with your wife, visit my site at www.makeyourwifehot.com today!
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About the Author:After a career, 3 kids, and a rocky marriage, Doug has unlocked the TRUE secrets to love and sex in marriage. His book, "Make Your Wife Hot" is changing lives and attitudes of couples all over the world.
His website and blog can be found at www.makeyourwifehot.com
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