How to Deal With the Negative Influence of your Husband's Ex-wife On your Relationship

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When you are in any kind of relationship and the ex lover or spouse still has a presence in the other person's life, it can be hard. This is especially true if the ex is causing a problem with the new relationship that is going on. Many people who have to deal with this problem in their life and they have to think of ways that will help them get through it.

When you truly love someone, you will find ways to work around just about any problem. This will also include the negative influence of your husband's ex wife. You will have to come to terms with the problem and together you will have to come up with a solution that will make everyone involved happy and able to go on with his or her life.

If an ex wife is trying to make your relationship sour with your husband, you will have to do something about it. You can choose to ignore the problem and not worry about it, but this is not a very realistic idea. Most people that are in this situation will have to eventually say something and do something about it. You cannot just sit back and let someone try and ruin your relationship.

The first thing that you need to do when your husband's ex wife is having a negative effect on your relationship is to discuss it with your husband. You have to make sure that he knows how you feel. You may want to ask him to talk to the ex wife and see if she would step back for a while. This may not always be a good idea depending on how well the ex and the husband get along.

If the husband has no luck talking to the ex wife, you may have to take care of this problem on your own. There is no sense in threatening the woman. Violence is never the answer and it will only get you in a bigger mess than what you are already in. If the women are making your marriage stressed, you should tell her how you feel.

If she has no remorse and does not agree to leave you alone, you should simple wipe her out. Block her phone number from your home phone, do not accept her mail or any other phone calls and try to ignore her completely.

Some times the ex wife is not even physically in the relationship. There are some cases where there is just so much tension from the past that it is causing some problems in your marriage now. If your husband's ex wife was mean or had a bad temper, you may see that your relationship with your husband now is stressed. He may feel that the same thing is going to happen with you. Maybe other issues he had to deal with while he was married to the ex have to be sorted out. If so, your husband may not have worked through those problems and now it is hard for him to move on with you.

You need to work through these problems with your husband. Communication is the key to keeping your marriage on track and for going in the right direction. You want to make sure that you are keeping the lines of communication open so that you can discuss freely and problems that you are having. Talk to him about the negative effects that the ex wife has placed upon your marriage. Find out if there is anything that can be changed to make the situation more comfortable for both of you in the marriage.

If the talking is not working, you may have to take the next step and that may be counseling. This is something that you can do to make try and fix the problem. You have to be ready to go the distance when you are married and if that means that you have to seek counseling, so be it. There is nothing to be ashamed of and you may find that you have lasting results that can better your marriage all around.

The main thing to do when your husband's ex wife is having a negative effect on your relationship is to talk about it. Sort through the details and try and come up with new ideas to make the problem go away or to be resolved.

You have to figure out a way for everyone to get along so that there can be peace with everyone. This is of course especially true if there are children involved. All of the appropriate steps have to be taken to ensure that the children are not bothered by this problem that the adults are having.

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    1. Melody Loyall August 27, 2008
    I can see this point but when I talked to the ex wife about her behavior she took out a restraining order on me for harrassment and they let her have it. Right now we have a son together and all I can think about is how this is not beneficial to our child or my daughter from a previous marriage. I get along great with my ex husband's new wife and the more I try with my husband's ex the more grief I get.I can't erase her completely because they have 2 sons together but she holds them over his head also and we are 2nd to them.
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    2. theresa November 15, 2008
    what about when she uses the child
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    3. B miller June 05, 2009
    Once anyone has given their spouse or partner chances after chances and they continues to cheat with ex-lovers or recent met lovers, it is time to let him or her free from marriage because he is already running free as if he is not married.
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