Marriage Counseling Or Divorce Mediator

In order for me to make a very important point I must ask you to pretend that you have absolutely no knowledge of chickens or eggs. Maybe you can pretend you're from another planet or something. Now, let's imagine I put a scrambled egg in front of you. If you were to see a scrambled egg but had no previous knowledge of what an egg is, it would be impossible for you to unravel the mystery of the commonplace earthly food in front of you. A scrambled egg doesn't look anything like its origins; there's especially no way for you to have guessed it came in a shell and the egg came from a chicken. I don't care how much time and energy you put into solving the mystery and the origins of your scrambled egg and it makes no difference how smart you are; you just couldn't solve the mystery using only the information that is in front of you. But once someone knowledgeable explained all of the facts about eggs the mystery would be gone. With your newfound knowledge you would be able to create omelets, quiche, fried eggs and a gazillion other things with eggs. Even if you were not particularly creative you could learn from others who explored the world of eggs and compiled recipes galore. You too could become an expert if you wanted to.

Marriage is Universally Misunderstood

In our society, in our time, the origins and correct uses of marriage are almost completely lost. The proof of my statement is in the divorce statistics and backed up by what everyone knows; happy marriages are extremely rare. My statement is also backed up by the fact that marriage counseling exists at all. Just about everybody gets married so logic tells us it should be the most understood thing there is. Instead, you could get more contrary and contradictory advice about marriage from those who are married than anything else people participate in. Ice skating, driving, mountain climbing, bowling, gardening, you name it; everything else is understood well enough by its participants to create commonly held beliefs that rarely differ from one person to the next. Isn't this true? Why?

Western Psychological Marriage Counseling Usually Leads to Mediation (or Lawyers) and Divorce

The problem with western psychological marriage counseling lies in its limitations and refusal to acknowledge the spiritual side of mankind. Man is spiritual, psychological and physical. But western psychological teachings try to encompass our spiritual aspect as being merely a part of our psychological. For this reason a duly trained Freudian psychologist looks in the wrong places for the source of marital problems. Going back to the scrambled egg analogy, they are looking at marriage without understanding its spiritual foundation and form; it is impossible for them to make heads or tails of what is going on in a troubled marriage and so they usually end up referring their desperate clients to a divorce mediator or family law practitioner; it is the best they can do.

If it Doesn't Look Simple You're Probably Missing the Point

God invented marriage for everyone, not just for a few chosen special people. He knows that some of us are smart and others are less intelligent; He knows some of us are intellectual while others are emotional; He knows some of us lie through our teeth while others are straight as a rail. He made marriage for everyone and He made the rules simple and easy to follow. If your marriage is not having success it is because you are not following the rules. If you're not following the rules, which are designed to bring great happiness and are therefore easy to follow, it means you don't know them. Read my Lessons For A Happy Marriage; that is the best advice I can give you. I have laid out everything you need to know in order to have a very successful and happy marriage; and I pray you do.