MARRIAGE I: ARE YOU READY?
By Juddie Passion
Marriages are contracted everyday and everywhere around the globe. But 80% of them last not a weekend. Stars, actors and actresses and artistes are the worst hit. I always wonder why one should start a journey that one cannot finish with a clean record. Men and women, Boys and girls ‘jump’ into the race that they would soon get tired-of. Boys and girls being the worst hit. This then causes the infiltration of the universe with half-baked personalities due to the break-down of the nuclear family structure.
The Americas seem to be the worst hit in terms of Divorce rate. It seems 6 out of 10 marriages end in divorce within a fortnight. Why do we then keep getting into the race of life when we are not yet ready to face the facts;
1. That marriage is for life and for friends
2. That Divorce is the worst solution for couples during the trial period
3. That no two people can live together without some elements of arguments
4. That your spouse can never ever do or become exactly as you desire
5. That there must still be differences between couples
6. That ones level of education or status in life does not determine his/her proficiency in marriage
What Then Is Marriage?
According to PASSION, “Marriage is the personal voluntary slavery situation where one agrees to ever serve the other without complain or grumbling until master death parts them.” At this juncture, no party has the right to ask for a disconnection a long as they are alive. It is an eternal thing. It is a situation where you do not have a choice otherwise. Moreover, you cannot possibly be praying for the demise of your spouse so you can be free; that’s murder! To get married then it means that the man must completely remove his backbone or spinal cord, and the woman her mouth totally shut as if dumb. This is what I call: “Connubial Relinquish.” As soon as this is accomplished, then there is going to be the real union of souls and bodies of two different beings merged into one superbeing. This means that: the professor becomes a nonprofessional, the reverend becomes a layman, the lawyer becomes a layman, the rich becomes the poor, the poor becomes the rich, and vice versa. Until this is accomplished, there is going to be a divorce soon.
Are you really ready??
Now mull over the points above, and appraise yourself whether you are really eligible to cross the threshold into the race of no return, no surrender. It is better to remain single than to rush into that race, one too many have done that and have lived to regret. Now let us consider some points that would help assess our readiness.
1. How old are you physically, emotionally, spiritually and otherwise?
Marriage had never been instituted for boys and girls, but for men and women who are matured emotionally, spiritually, physically or otherwise.
2. Do you have a future?
Marriage is for those that have a solid future aspirations and dreams. The man must have a dream, which he must sell to the woman who will in turn provide a support, help and cushion for its actualization.
3. Can you Support Yourself?
Are you capable of putting some food on your table? Can you provide for another extra mouth? If you cannot provide for your own food at the moment then it will suicide to consider marriage now. She will never be okay with you if she was not brought up to stay hungry for too long. She may be pissed off.
4. Are you a decision Maker?
Are you such a man that cannot make your own decisions? Do you still allow your environment to influence your decisions? What of your parents, do you allow them to decide for you? What of your big brothers and sisters? If your answer is yea, then you are milestones away from marriage.
5. Is he/she your friend?
Do you find a friend in him/her? I mean your spouse- if you don’t find a friend in him or her then better run.
6. Do you really love him/her? – can you really give up everything you are or have for him or her? If not, then run.
7. Can you die for him/her to live?
Assuming he or she needs a kidney to live, and you have good one and a semi-good one, would you really spare the good one for him or her, knowing that you will be left with the faulty one?- if you cannot, then run.
8. Can you live without him/her?
Does he/she have an effect on you? – if you can live daily without him/her having any effects on you, then he/she is not yours- keep searching.
9. Does he/she make you smile?
If no, then keep searching. It is better to get acquainted with someone that makes you smile. Someone humorous and with a large heart.
10. Does he/she see the best bright side of you or is he/she always seeing the dark side of you? Is he/she always complaining about you or everything? Does he/she always say thank you? Does he/she always say sorry? If you find out that he or she is does not appreciate you or your personality, with a forgiving heart, simplicity of mind and is not an easygoing person, then better run for your life while it’s yet day.
If by the time you go thru all this questions, you find out that you score very low, then wait a little bit longer and work on your emotions. By so doing, we will be able to save the world from the menace of half-baked children and leaders.
This is just the part one!
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