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Marriage Secrets - A True Secret Cannot Be Told

The worlds greatest marriage secrets to making marriage work is and always has been Communication. An older married couple told me that despite appearances, they actually have had many problems throughout the years. The difference was they were willing to stick with it through thick and thin. I admired the man for his honesty and charisma.

He said to me that a true secret cannot be told, it has to be learned by experience, then demonstrated through our actions. " When you're married you can't be all dandy all the time. It takes work and compromise, a whole lot of compromise. Understanding, forgiveness, and a whole lot more." <-His words not mine.

It can be so hard to see what is needed when you are so close to the problem. Passion is the enemy of precision. All the really difficult problems tend to have very simple solutions. In theory these solutions seem too easy. Yet in practice can be extremely difficult to apply.

I know when only one person is doing everything they can while the other is not it can sometimes feel like clapping with one hand. The thing is people communicate in very different ways. In particular Men & Women. Essentially though the difference is surprisingly small. People are people.

Yes, some women can be more assertive with regards to talking about problems but communication is just as much about listening as it is about response. If not more so. Also, times are changing and more men are being struck with the sensitivity bell more than ever.

As we become more comfortable with our marriage, slowly, over time our communication begin to dissolve. Sex is the highest form of communication. Eventually, when we grow older it loses its importance. Marriage secrets to making marriage work are finding new ways to communicate and have fun.

This allows us to grow older with grace and love. We all are ultimately looking for the same things deep down, Understanding. One of the huge disappointments in life is getting older but when we have someone there with us who understands us we tend not to notice it near as much.

I think that the marriage secrets mostly unknown to us are the fact that they do have problems and nothing in life is perfect. How you choose to handle it can mean the difference between divorce, and or getting a little older and far wiser for the ware. "That which does not kill us, only makes us stronger."

It is far more worth it to stay with your own Marriage Secrets and grow from the mistakes you learned together, than to call it quits and run out to make new mistakes all over again.

Learn 7 Marriage myths commonly told, that could actually do more damage to your relationship. YOU CAN save your marriage by taking action on your own.

Jamie Haas

An Accomplished Writer, Primarily focused on Marriage & communication, particularly 'good' communication. We all want to connect with others and communication is vital to the process of achieving that connection. Sometimes we lose sight of the fact of that connection and that closeness to someone is what we got into this for in the first place. Subtle reminders of how important that connection, closeness is powerful & can really make a difference.

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