Promote your Sexual Desires & Ensure Discretion

To Advertise or not to Advertise

That’s the question. Many people decide to use ads as a “safe” way to recruit people to join them in their sexual fantasy. You don’t need to go far; just search in the local newspaper stand and you’ll find many magazines or publications that contain hundreds of ads of people looking for people to fulfill their sexual fantasies. Swinger and partner-exchange magazines have grown to unheard of proportions. It’s always interesting to read how people market themselves.

Imagine that you want to recruit a guy for an Aphrodite threesome (MMF). The first ad gives me the feeling that the guy is a bit of a pervert! I wouldn’t like him to be with my husband and me in a passionate session, would you? I’m not so much pro-explicit advertising, however, that’s only my personal opinion. Karl and I have had plenty of threesomes and we’ve never advertised in any of these types of publications.

Are There Alternatives Then?

ABSOLUTELY! My husband and I have always been contrarians. Why do what everyone else is doing? Personal classifieds can be very effective but they don’t necessarily have to be explicit. A friend of ours that moved six times in the past four years due to her husband’s work, told us that whenever she arrives to a new town, she places various ads in the classifieds that are innocent, but attract better candidates. And if they’re not threesome candidates, she just makes new friends with some of them. She writes things like this:

"Frustrated lady seeks same for golf practice"

"Recently married woman seeks kitchen pal to experiment recipes with"

"Female jogger needs partner who runs as slow as I do"

"Indecisive shopper seeks kind spirit to help her choose clothing. Will do same in return."

"Lady who needs a bit of encouragement seeks for same for weekly workout"

"My husband doesn't like girl-talk in the morning. Searching for interesting female for breakfast chats."

These casual requests are a foot in the door but carry no “issues” that might turn away a cautious reader. The important thing is to be creative and perhaps a bit daring. Think of the type of woman you find attractive and place an ad that attracts these women. It’s also a good idea to look at some ads and observe how they’re formulated so you can be effective in choosing the wording of your own ads.

How can I ensure discretion?

Obviously, one of the most important concerns for people is discretion. The "sexual matrix" has created many road blocks to be open about your sexual desires, so you have to look for alternative routes to find what you desire. If you’re afraid of “getting caught”, then this sub-chapter is for you.

If you’re going to be playing the game of finding a candidate for your threesome and you want absolute discretion, I recommend the following:

Get a private P.O. Box, so that nothing referring to this subject ever reaches your home.

Have a private voice mail that takes messages without anybody finding out about your desires.

Go to hotmail or yahoo and open an account. Obviously you should give yourself an alias. When you give yourself an alias think of something nice or sexy that can describe you as an individual or as a couple. It’s very common to find really silly aliases that just by reading them makes you not want get in touch with these people! For example: assfucker22, pussylicker7 or couplewantspussy27. Find something nice and sensual, or cute and funny instead. After you’ve created a sensual or erotic alias, you can use that name in all the chat rooms and group discussions you’d like to participate.

Print cards with your P.O. Box, mobile number and sexy mail, so you can use them in case you find a candidate.

Never make any calls at home!

Make your telephone caller ID free, so you can conveniently call from your home.

On most phone systems these days, pressing *69 will automatically call back the last person who called you. You don't need to sign up for this service for it to be activated, but you can call the phone company and de-activate it; do this right away!

Suzy Bauer