Mary Shawe is the author of several books on marriage and relationships. Please visit her website to learn more.
You will undoubtedly, over the course of your marriage, hear and give a fair share of marriage advice. This can range from keeping your romance alive to how to decide who gets control of the remote. All of this is well and good as long as you remember one thing: even with advice, no marriage is perfect. You will still have to work things out, talk things over and try to figure out where you stand on every issue. Marriage is all about compromise and understanding. While this may be difficult at times, it is still essential if you want to make your marriage work. Still, even with that said, there are some basic marriage advice tips that will make things run a bit more smoothly.
Most marriage advice centers around the little everyday activities. This makes sense simply because these are the things you should not have to worry about. There are too many larger issues that you will have to deal with. Let us offer a few helpful marriage advice tips:
Keep to the issue: the worst thing you can do during a fight is to turn it into an insult competition. You are mad at a problem, not each other. Bringing in faults or even past mistakes will only make the situation worse.
Know that you will fight occasionally: you will experience problems. Nobody’s marriage is perfect. Even with marriage advice, you will still have to deal with issues. This does not mean that you have a weak marriage, just a normal one.
Understand the value of humor: while trying to make a joke during an argument can be ill-timed, knowing that life is not so serious helps keep things in perspective. You are less likely to argue in the first place if you can simply laugh about the things you can't control.
Sometimes, you have to wait: even when an issue seems urgent, if you are both upset, it may be better to wait a few days. Give yourself, and your partner, a chance to think things over before you both say something you regret. This does not mean to forget the issue entirely but, rather, to let it cool for a bit before pursuing it. You may find it is not so important after a day's reflection.
It's all about the differences: learn to love your partner's quirks and habits. While some may annoy you (and that will happen), you cannot demand that they change everything to suit you, just as they can't ask that of you. While some requests are reasonable (not throwing their shoes in the middle of the room, for example), do not try to change them. Accept your differences and learn to reach a balance point.
This is all very basic marriage advice but you would be amazed at how many people fail to follow it. These are the same people that believe a marriage should be perfect and they should never fight. The only piece of marriage advice we can give to that is this: You will fight and you will have problems. But, if you love each other, you will remember that you can get through it, usually just by sitting down and talking it out.
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