Stop Divorce By Discovering The True Causes Of Divorce

It is incorrect to believe that your marriage is over even after your spouse has filed for a divorce.

Remember that the person you are married to was someone who chose you and who you chose to spend the rest of your life with. Even though both of you have been through the mill, giving up does not have to be your final act. It is not as uncommon as you may imagine for people to stop divorce before it becomes final.

In most states the parties of a divorce are encouraged to keep the communication lines open for a number of reasons. Although most lawyers do not recommend it because they do not want you to say something that might harm your case, it is probably in the best interest of your family to make every effort to bring your family back together. It is absolutely in the best interest of your children to bring your family back together.

Try to Recognize the True Causes of Divorce

One of the great missing ingredients in marriages today is marital know-how. Our educational system refuses to even acknowledge the need for "how to live" curriculum. It seems the powers that be care less about future families than they do about your ability to do algebra. This backwards thinking has created a divorce rate that is undermining our nation by destroying our families. In our complex society where free choice is promoted there must be a balance created by education in the art of community and marriage.

The True Causes of Divorce Stem from Two Great Killers

1. Over familiarity
2. Poor communication skills

Because of a lack of true love and friendship in our society, most couples take each other for granted when they get married and break all the rules of common decency. They become rude, crude and step over every practical boundary you can think of. This fundamental problem of disrespect creates innumerable offshoot problems that can never be resolved until the couple realizes the need for mutual respect and adoration.

Individuals need to look at their own behavior so they can see what needs to stop. I do not know anyone who responds well to abuse, whether it is minor or major. A happy and satisfying marriage demands loving and respectful behavior.

Watching television or listening to the radio will definitely not help improve a person's communication skills. Once again we can blame our school system for leaving our children and ourselves underdeveloped in this crucial area of social requirements. Communication is a vast topic that should be taught and learned by anyone who wants to do well in a civilized society. The value of understanding proper communication techniques cannot be overstated.

95% of all causes of divorce can be traced back to the above-mentioned roots. Just because you are aware of terrible infractions doesn't mean you shouldn't forgive and move forward with your marriage. But it does mean you need to take the initiative to learn everything you can about friendship and communication.

Your marriage is not hopeless. Your family is not doomed. Make up your mind to stop the divorce, save your marriage and choose to live in a joyous marital environment. Decide to not give up until you have the marriage you dreamed of. My prayers are with you.