To Love, Honor and Cherish..

<h1>To Love, Honor and Cherish..</h1>Author: <a title="Carol Ann" href="http://www.articlesbase.com/authors/carol-ann/107170.htm">Carol Ann</a> If you take a look at the couples around you, it will become obvious that many were not paying attention while they were reciting their wedding vows.  There are many reasons for this, none that are truly acceptable, but none the less there are reasons.  Most couples, when they are getting married, seemed to be more focused on what they are wearing, how they look, who is there and who is missing.  Other may not think about it because they are "in love" and feel that they already know what they want and what they want to pledge to their loved one. The true problem with this is that these couples, may not know what it actually means to be in love.  That initial feeling between to people, the butterflies in your stomach, this is all puppy love, in my opinion.  There is a huge difference between actually loving someone and being in love with someone. When you take care of your elderly grandparents and change them or feed them, you do that out of love.  Which is, in my opinion, a far cry from the hearts and flowers feeling of being "in love".  Don't get me wrong, it is not that it is not valid or a good reason to be with someone, but there absolutely must be more. A successful marriage must have companionship and friendship that can withstand the test of time.  During a marriage you and your spouse village, hair will and teeth will be lost, and sometimes so will the mind.  Ten, fifteen even 40 years down the road, you should be able to look at your spouse and love them just as much as you did, if not more, due to the life and experiences you have shared.  This is more then just a romance novel love, this is the strongest type of love that there is. You need to realize that even though you may have fell in love with his smile and full head of hair, that will all change.  You will begin to love him more for standing bedside you, through all the joys and sorrows that you have experienced throughout your life together.  You will watch him go from a young, sexy boy into a responsible and secure older man.  You need to be able to say, if I was to go back in time, I would choose him all over again. For better or for worse, in sickness and in health, to love, honor and cherish for as long as you both shall live.  It won't be without problems, changes or things to adapt to and deal with.  Marriage problems are the glue of the marriage itself, for with each one you conquer the marriage becomes stronger than ever before.  So don't get divorced...GET REAL!About the Author: Carol Ann has knowledgeable web articles related to marriage problems. She tries to give you alternative ways, when you think you may need to see a <a href="http://homengarden4u.com/MarriageCounselor.html">marriage counselor</a>. Just type in here name and check out some of the articles she has available, it may just be what your marriage needs. Article Source: <a href="http://www.articlesbase.com/">ArticlesBase.com</a> - <a href="http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/to-love-honor-and-cherish-1101640.html" title="To Love, Honor and Cherish..">To Love, Honor and Cherish..</a>

If you take a look at the couples around you, it will become obvious that many were not paying attention while they were reciting their wedding vows. There are many reasons for this, none that are truly acceptable, but none the less there are reasons. Most couples, when they are getting married, seemed to be more focused on what they are wearing, how they look, who is there and who is missing. Other may not think about it because they are "in love" and feel that they already know what they want and what they want to pledge to their loved one.

The true problem with this is that these couples, may not know what it actually means to be in love. That initial feeling between to people, the butterflies in your stomach, this is all puppy love, in my opinion. There is a huge difference between actually loving someone and being in love with someone.

When you take care of your elderly grandparents and change them or feed them, you do that out of love. Which is, in my opinion, a far cry from the hearts and flowers feeling of being "in love". Don't get me wrong, it is not that it is not valid or a good reason to be with someone, but there absolutely must be more.

A successful marriage must have companionship and friendship that can withstand the test of time. During a marriage you and your spouse village, hair will and teeth will be lost, and sometimes so will the mind. Ten, fifteen even 40 years down the road, you should be able to look at your spouse and love them just as much as you did, if not more, due to the life and experiences you have shared. This is more then just a romance novel love, this is the strongest type of love that there is.

You need to realize that even though you may have fell in love with his smile and full head of hair, that will all change. You will begin to love him more for standing bedside you, through all the joys and sorrows that you have experienced throughout your life together. You will watch him go from a young, sexy boy into a responsible and secure older man. You need to be able to say, if I was to go back in time, I would choose him all over again.

For better or for worse, in sickness and in health, to love, honor and cherish for as long as you both shall live. It won't be without problems, changes or things to adapt to and deal with. Marriage problems are the glue of the marriage itself, for with each one you conquer the marriage becomes stronger than ever before. So don't get divorced...GET REAL!

Carol Ann has knowledgeable web articles related to marriage problems. She tries to give you alternative ways, when you think you may need to see a marriage counselor. Just type in here name and check out some of the articles she has available, it may just be what your marriage needs.

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