Why Did She Leave You?

Many people say, “The luxury and the goodness in marriage life can only be experienced in the early days, weeks or months after wedding”. This is according to most married couples, specifically those who ended up as “ex-couples”. Somehow we could say this is true especially if we’ll see those married couples ended up in separation. What’s wrong with it, then? Whose fault is it? Why did it turn out to break up? Perhaps there is something wrong with each other. Or it could be the husband’s or the wife’s issue. 

At this point let us consider the side of the husbands. Why such a wife leaves her husband? There could be a lot of reasons why this happens. In a woman’s point of vies, it could be an attitude problem with the husband. Attitude here, refers to various characters and/or behaviors a man showed to his wife later in their marriage days. These behaviors fall on the category that’s “Bad” and “Unacceptable”. Perhaps she’s shocked upon discovering the real character of the man she with right now. Why? It is because, most men tend to hide their negative behaviors especially during courtship. Does this mean that these men are hypocrites? No offense but it’s partly true. I mean, some men are, some aren’t. Others are just so afraid of losing their women if they will show their real image before marriage. They are doing this just to be safe. 

One of the most love-killing attitude that could possibly result to divorce is being selfish and indifferent. This happens when a man doesn’t think of the feelings of a woman as his wife. This is shown when a man keeps practicing an over authoritative behavior towards his wife. Eventually, it reaches up to the point of abusing the rights of his wife, pushing her to give up. Practically, a woman would say, “Why suffer much longer with this kind of man? I need respect. Even I, do respect my own self. So why should live with a man who does not care to respect me?” 

This simply means one thing. Respect is an essential element for a successful and happy marriage. This is for both husband and wife. If you do have respect towards each other’s feelings, then everything will follow—open-mindedness, understanding, patience, and acceptance. Always remember women are born with vulnerable feelings and “too much” for them is not always good. If your woman leaves you, that simply means there is something wrong with what you did to her or even worst, something is wrong with you as her husband. 

So you better think many times, and keep pondering on what you’ve done to her that forced her to do the most difficult decision—that’s breaking up your marriage. After you found out what the problem is, you’ve go to decide whether or not to win her back or just five her up.