Your Husband is Pulling Away – How to Regain His Love and Save Your Marriage

For a married woman one of the most troubling situations is when your husband is pulling away. Every relationship has an ebb and flow and that’s certainly true of marriages as well. Whether you’ve been together one year or twenty years, when your spouse starts to act distant and says he needs time, it’s difficult not to panic. If this is happening to you and you love him and don’t want the relationship to end in divorce, you need to take action now before it’s too late.

When your husband is pulling away from you, your initial reaction may be to suspect he’s been unfaithful. We typically jump to the conclusion that another woman must be involved if our husband doesn’t find us as interesting as he once did. Although this does happen, it’s rarely the reason he’s become distant. Most men pull back when they feel some confusion. He may be struggling with trying to determine whether he’s still in love with you versus loving you. There’s a distinct difference there and when a man begins to feel that he’s falling out of love with his wife, he’ll often disconnect from her emotionally. If this is indeed what is happening in your relationship you need to give your husband what he asks for, which is some time and space.

It may seem counterproductive to let your husband have distance from you when he says he’s not in love, but it can actually help to repair the relationship. You need for your spouse to feel that you respect his needs and wishes. If you try to hold on tighter to him when he’s asking for space, he’ll feel smothered and start to resent you. Many couples who go through a separation go on to have a stronger, closer marriage. If he wants to move out for a time, let him.

You must also give him a chance to express what he’s feeling without fear of being verbally attacked or emotionally overwhelmed by you. Tell him that you want to hear what he has to say and then promise you’ll stay calm and collected. Don’t take offense at his comments. Instead listen to them and learn from them. If you fully understand what he’s feeling, it will help you to change what’s not working so your marriage can move forward on a positive note. Compromise is essential if your husband is pulling away and you want to save the relationship.