Confused Men Ask -- What Do Women Want From Us?

The problem here is that men asked each other what women want instead of asking articulate, informed women capable of answering that question for them. So fellas, I am going to provide you with the definitive list of exactly what women look for in a man.

Women want a man that is masculine. That means no whining, whimpering, pouting or acting a fool when you don't get your way. You do not wear more jewelry than we do. Your hair is not longer than ours. You do not wear makeup, especially eyeliner and nail polish. You DO have muscles. You DO NOT have man-boobs. You refuse to wear unisex clothing or define yourself as "metrosexual." Your voice is not high. An added plus is neatly trimmed hair on your body or face.

Women want a man they can respect. That means that you are sincere, trustworthy, and a person she admires. You work hard and she thinks you are the greatest guy in the world, at least in her top five! When a woman is in love, she longs to feel that no other man can hold a candle to her guy. She doesn’t need you to tell her what to do like her father, but she still looks up to you in many ways and respects your opinions, lifestyle, behavior and thought processes.

Women want a man they can trust. That means no matter how bad things may hurt, she can count on you to always tell her the unadulterated and complete truth. You have proven yourself to be a man of your word so that she feels confident when you tell her something, that is how it is or how it will be. That trust in you is KEY. And once you damage it, the 100% open hearted, no holds barred love she has for you is also damaged.



Women want a playmate. A man that can be silly with her, make her laugh, is full of surprises. The two of you share secret looks and secret giggles, even in a crowd. When things are awful you are the one man she knows can find the humor in the situation and make everyone around relax and laugh with him.

Women want a man that can be Daddy. Not in the literal sense, don't get me wrong! But every woman wants a cuddle, a kiss on the forehead, and an "it will be all right honey!" from her man every now and then. We enjoy that sense of "being taken care of" though that should not be taken literally unless she is sick. Likewise this is not focused solely on financial matters.

Taking care of your woman means you meet her needs emotionally, mentally, sexually, psychologically and perhaps financially at times too (like if she is on maternity leave and recuperating from childbirth).

Women want a guy with something to talk about besides cars, sports and work. Women are not necessarily attracted to the best looking guy (by male standards), have you noticed that? Look at music star Janet Jackson and her soul mate Jermaine Dupree as a perfect example! Women are most attracted to a guy that has the energy and mental connection that she finds stimulating. This most often has to do with his verbal skills and ability to use words to stimulate her mind.

Shy, quiet guys usually don't have much to say and women find this boring. Watch some of the "player" types and how they work women! Observe their witty banter, engaging jokes, humorous stories. They ask women for their opinion, they jump around and talk about lots of different subjects which all work together to keep women's minds active.

As females are very auditory creatures, we enjoy HEARING words and voices. We enjoy talking and communicating. When men can adjust their behavior and get on the female wavelength, women respond positively. That is why a guy that may be (by other guy's standards) not that good looking is able to get ALL the women. He talks. He makes women laugh. Hot women have a great time with him and enjoy being around him because he is NEVER boring.

Women want a man they think is attractive. This standard varies from woman to woman but I think if you are clean, dressed appropriately for your age and physique, well groomed, and present yourself with confidence, she will see you as an attractive guy. If you are HOT, SEXY, DA BOMB, BEEFCAKE, etc. well, that is just icing on the cake. Everyone should do whatever they can to look their best and stay in shape.

Women want a man that is romantic. Even if you two have been together 40 years, a woman still wants her man to court and woo her every now and then. Do the things you did to get her originally with regards to time, dates, attention, flattery, and your energy... and you will keep your woman happy forever.

You don't want women to perceive you to be "too" nice because guys that are "too nice" to women bend over backwards to please, don't speak up and put women in check when they cross boundaries, don't voice their opinions or desires for this and are overly accommodating. Women need to look up to a man, respect his masculinity, and know that he is not going to take much if any mess from them. He may smile and indulge her occasionally but she knows that is just for now and she enjoys it tremendously because he "let her" get away with something.

Now if you can incorporate these points into your way of relating to women, and still be respectful to her and treat her like a lady, you will be in the front of the crowd dude! You will inspire women's respect, passion, and love.

And THAT is how you get women.