Build Your Confidence in Dating ¦ How to Be GOOD ENOUGH for the Girls You Want

In these uncertain times, it's easy to get down on yourself - "I don't make enough money," "I don't have good job skills," "I'm not good looking enough for the babes."

But imagine being able to replace all those negative emotions with the ability to build and maintain confidence in dating, and get the girls and even the job you always wanted.  In other words: Are you ready to take the next step toward actually LIKING WHO YOU ARE?  And getting the women, friendships, and even financial success you always wanted?

This isn't some BS product that promises the world and delivers nothing.  This is all about YOU and becoming confident and comfortable with you who are as a person.

In order to do that, we have to take the first step, which is:

Believing You ARE Good Enough

Success isn't possible unless you BELIEVE good things will happen to you--because you DO deserve success.

I want to talk about something that we all have...that little voice inside our heads that loves to 'converse' with us about how we're NOT GOOD ENOUGH.

The issue of WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK is a big issue for a lot of guys, and it ends up with most of us literally psyching ourselves OUT of doing the things we really want to do.

Just as women feel the pressure to conform to cruelly-perfect standards of bodily perfection, men feel anxiety about issues like masculinity, wit, and strength. And in particular ... the ability to be ENTERTAINING and FUNNY.

There's talk going round these days about this need - to demonstrate a razor-sharp wit and engage in the kind of verbal-swordplay 'one-upmanship' that a lot of guys like to fool around with.

To a certain extent, mass consumption of popular comedy, and the increasing popularity of male comedians, are largely to blame for this unwelcome phenomenon.

And it's even gotten to the stage where I'm getting emails from guys admitting that they 'just don't bother anymore' trying to impress women, because they've gotten the impression that emale standards are now just TOO HIGH for them.

Can anybody say ... LOW SELF-CONFIDENCE?

BELIEVING that something bad is going to happen ... in this case, that you're 'not going to be attractive enough' ... actually MAKES IT HAPPEN.

I thought my readers might enjoy seeing a bit of real-life proof about the kinds of obstacles that can be overcome in the pursuit of all-round excellence. I figured that it might help to give me more credence if I had a rock-solid, real-life example to point to and say, 'Look! Look at what THIS guy's managed to overcome, and look at where he is now!'

Your Next Step Towards Dating Self Confidence

Let me tell you a short story about someone who's managed to overcome his own particular physical and emotional hangups - and who now enjoys INCREDIBLE success with women.

His name's Sean Stephenson, and this is his situation: as a result of a rare bone disorder, Sean is literally the size of a six-year old (well, that's how he describes himself, anyway) and confined to a wheelchair.

For YEARS, he believed that his condition was such that no woman would ever be able to feel attraction for him.

As a result, he was afraid of going out and meeting women.

He simply couldn't conceive of a girl being physically attracted to him, given the way he LOOKED (nod your head here if this sounds familiar to you) and given the fact of his disability.

He felt like, no matter HOW bad he wanted a woman, he simply would never be able to get one.

For TWELVE YEARS, this frame of mind continued - and of course, the prophecy continued to self-fulfill. Women were just not interested in Sean: every time he felt that one was starting to fall for him, she'd turn around and say, "Sean, I'm just not attracted to you because of your condition."

Finally, he managed to develop a system that FREED HIMSELF from these limiting beliefs and LITERALLY turned his success round 180 degrees.

Despite the fact that his physical condition is still EXACTLY THE SAME - nothing's changed there - he now enjoys AMAZING success with women, to the extent that he travels the world giving seminars on how to achieve the results you want REGARDLESS of your looks or abilities.

And of course, there's no question of settling for someone that's 'less than'. The guy knows who he's genuinely attracted to, and sees to it that those are the women he gets.

Now, if you've never been in a position where you're surrounded by 15 or 20 giggling girls, and you know that you get to PICK ONE to go home with at the end of the night ...

... ESPECIALLY if you haven't yet experienced anything like this because you think you're not ATTRACTIVE enough ...

... then you're going to want to hear what comes next. Because despite spending twelve YEARS being squashed like a grape by his own B.S., Sean is now the one with the right of 'first refusal'.

Not bad for a complete personal transformation. I've talked to this guy personally, and let me tell you, he tells some truly inspiring stuff!

So obviously, anyone who's ever had a limiting belief before is going to know that it's one thing to try and THINK to yourself, 'OK, I'm an attractive guy', but it's quite another to actually BELIEVE IT.

And quite frankly, I'm not in the mood right now to give you some advice on 'reshaping your beliefs' or 'doing your affirmations'. It's true that that stuff is literally like DYNAMITE when it comes to taking care of 'attitude problems' ...

... but if you're in that mindset where you literally believe that women will NOT find you attractive, then you need something that you can use RIGHT NOW. Tonight, if necessary.

Overcome Negative Emotions

The next step for you to take is to figure out what you like about yourself. (And by the way... it's OK to not like EVERYTHING about yourself; that's where you can improve.  Just don't beat yourself up about your faults!!)

For example, if you've got an issue with looks, you could decide to go work out a bit more until that's changed ... or you could decide to ramp up your personality and 'inner game' to the point where you can literally 'outshine' any guy in the vicinity, no matter WHAT he looks like.

Whatever it is, you need to give yourself fuel to feed genuine confidence. How would you like to see yourself? What would you have to do to make that your reality?

... and then begin to take steps to MAKE it your reality. Do what it takes.  You'll not only treat yourself better, but other people, too.

If you're interested in learning more, I recommend one resource, and one resource only, for geniuine self-confidence:

How to Be Irresistible to Women: The Mastery Series

It's going to amaze you, and if you apply even just a few of the many lessons inside, HELP YOU.  It's got a lengthy interview with Sean Stephenson himself included where he talks AT LENGTH about the subjects written about here...and it's really good stuff.

Enjoy, and be well. Start looking at the POSITIVES of who you are, more than the negatives.

You won't regret making yourself more confident around people.