Matthew Best is the president of Best Solutions. He is an entrepreneurial coach who works specifically with clients who have EADD - Entrepreneurial Attention Deficit Disorder. Sign up for his free weekly newsletter for entrepreneurs and decision makers by visiting Passportforsuccess.org
by Matthew Best
A question that I ask my clients many times at the beginning of a coaching session is "Where are you stuck?" Many times the answers come easily. Clients come to a coaching session very open to learn when they are stuck. But what about those times when the answer to the "stuck" question is hard to find, really minor, or unknown?
I find it interesting when a client struggles with the question, seeking to find something to tell me. It's interesting to me because many times the client thinks I know something about them that would make me assume they are stuck. They are searching for an answer based on an assumption. Guess what – the assumption is wrong.
I ask the question about being stuck because it helps to identify what type of coaching session we'll be having - problem solving, strategy, accountability, etc. It's ok to not be stuck. Just as it's ok to not be in pain, not be worried, not be tired, not be stressed, not be any number of other things that we invest way too much time and energy into each day.
It's ok to be just fine, normal, doing well, doing great, content, etc. In fact, it's more than ok. We don't have to live our lives like a network news channel - always some problem or challenge being highlighted. The challenges and the problems should be the exception to normal, not the normal.
Your homework for today is simple - take a few minutes to think about what's going well. Why is it going well? How is it benefiting you? What opportunities are available because something is going well?
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